help.. i need some guidance

Friday, August 02, 2013

after alot of soul searching i think i figured out that i self sabotage my self and i dont know how to stop.. for instance i have plenty of time to work out in the morning before work i wake up telling myself im going to work out and i find "something more important " to do like make sure dishes are done or throw in a load of laundry before i wake up the kids. next thing you know its time for work. when i get home i say to myself im gonna get on the treadmill.. by the time im done with supper and clean up and whatever else i feel i need to get done its time for bed. i recently injured my neck/shoulder and ive been in physical therapy. im starting to finally feel a bit better and i can exercise i just have to watch what i do so i dont re injure myself.
in the past month i have gained over 5 pounds. so upset with myself. i read all of these articles with tips. i have a treadmill and some exercise equipment just sitting in a room. i have dvds. i have lots of tools to help me... so WHAT IS MY PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!! im not happy with what i see in the mirror but something is not "clicking" for me to get started. im very down and dissappointed and i was just hoping you had some words of encouragement that might help me change my way of thinking or looking at things so i can start to feel better about me and get myself healthier... thank you for taking the time to read this
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    I'm a little late in posting, but I just noticed the blog tonight; my apologies for not jumping in sooner I think you've gotten some stellar suggestions and a lot of them will benefit me also, so thank you for writing about this topic

    I am the queen of self sabotage also so I know where you are coming from. I've got a ton of video's just about every weight of dumbbell; kettle bells; resistance bands, a step a stationary bicycle, oh and a ramp-ever heard of that one?

    The thing that was key for me to start exercising was to admit that I needed help (which you've already done) and find someone to help me. At first it was my husband; he helped me get out and start walking with the dog and we didn't go far (same kind of early am workout that you are talking about) and we didn't set any speed records either. It was literally walk out 10 minutes and then back 10 minutes.

    Then I transitioned to working out out with a friend. Not going to sugar coat it, it was tough for me to make the time commitment to exercise rather than come home and watch TV or read (or find/think of something else to do).

    Now I won't give that time up. Tonight I was the only one in the gym at 7:30 pm; but I've promised myself that I would work out 5 nights a week before I go home. When I stopped to pick up a salad for dinner I wondered who I had become, that I don't feel right unless I have at least an hour of cardio a day and gauge my workouts by how much I perspire.

    So I guess I'm wondering if you have someone you can schedule a work out time with? My friend Cindy is my work out buddy and she keeps me accountable as I do her. It's really good to have someone say "come on, let's get this done," especially when you don't want to.

    I don't know where you live, but if you me to be that "accountable" friend and would like to Skype and exercise together in the morning to a DVD or just check in daily, let me know. I'd be happy to help.

    2832 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8482567
    Hi Kristy, I agree with all the comments here; I think committing to do 10 minutes every day is the best way to start. You're changing a lifestyle here--this is very hard to do for anyone. It's the whole journey that counts, so start with 5 minutes if you have to but commit to that and build up as you are able to. I don't have a gym membership because it just doesn't work with my life; I use SP & YouTube videos plus my own workout DVDs. Just try different things and do what you enjoy then it becomes fun rather than drudgery. I know you'll do this!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2837 days ago
  • KRISTY927
    thank you everyone for taking the time out to give me some really good suggestions! i appreciate it :)

    2837 days ago
    When I was working full time, it was so hard to find time to work-out. I had to break it into manageable chunks... 20 minutes on the elliptical in the morning, 20 minutes jogging on a rebounder at lunch and 30 minutes jogging on rebounder in the evening while I was watching TV. Later after leaving the full-time job and going to part-time work I joined a gym and started taking classes. Now I go to the gym every morning at 9:00am and it is a habit. Group fitness is much easier than going it on your own... but I realize that not everyone has the luxury of having time to go to the gym. Keep trying to find what works for you and your schedule.

    2838 days ago
    Hi Kristy... I echo everyone else's suggestions and can certainly empathize. I keep a gym bag in my car because I know if I go home first I won't go to the gym. As far as being able to exercise at home/in the morning, try sleeping in your sports bra or workout pants. It's one less thing to think about in the morning; it helped me because it was one of those things were I would say, "well I'm already dressed so let's try this thing for a little while." Sooner or later the habit will form.

    2840 days ago
    The hardest thing is getting started. I agree with everyone else- start with just 10 minutes and after awhile you can increase the time. and make it fun-put on some of your fav tunes! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2840 days ago
    I totally agree with Katy and Lori on the 10 or 15 minute idea. Here's one more thought - lay out your exercise clothes RIGHT in front of you in the bedroom. Set your alarm, get out of bed, pee, brush your teeth and PUT ON THOSE CLOTHES. Head straight to the treadmill and press the button on your timer (which you set last night.) Then JUST DO IT! No thinking about it, just hop on that treadmill. Don't even make your bed first the first few days (once you've set the pattern its ok to make your bed first but I'm afraid if you make your bed you'll stop to do something else.)

    The other part of losing weight is tracking your food. Are you doing that? If not maybe give yourself a week to get the treadmill habit going but DO begin tracking your food. It will make a big difference.

    And keep coming to your BLC friends for support!
    2840 days ago
  • JLR080500
    I am so guilty of self-sabotage also. I think my biggest success has been learning to forgive myself when I do sabotage and move on with a new day and a new outlook-not concentrating on my failures.
    2840 days ago
  • LORI2562
    Hi Kristy,

    I can totally relate to what you are saying. I used to self talk myself into and out of exercise on a daily basis. I would tell myself how much better I will feel, both physically and mentally when I am active and exercise. I know that being active makes me feel more positive about life. But I also would tell myself that if I let the chores pile up that will be sure to get me down. I would say that my to do list for the family was just as important (or more important) than ME time. I could always finding an excuses to not exercise.

    Something that has working well for me in the last few weeks, (almost 6 weeks now), is committing to 10 minutes of exercise - EVERY day - no matter what. I force myself to do something, beyond my regular daily activity, no matter how I feel or what the days brings me. Lots of days I get in way more than my ten minutes, but I consider that a bonus and keep my commitment to only 10 minutes.

    I think holding the routine and keeping the commitment of the 10 minutes never overwhelms me, and keeps me positive and wanting to stick to it.

    I have also been thinking about getting a FitBit, I have heard so many talking about how well it keeps them motivated.

    Good luck to you!
    2840 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12121677
    I hear you ... I'm pretty good at self-sabotage too. If you want to workout in the morning, how about if you tell yourself you're just going to do 15 minutes. That way, you could get a workout in (hey, something's better than 0, right?) as well as get the "more important" stuff done too.

    I'm an evening exerciser, after work. I find I'm much more likely to do a workout if I change into my workout clothes as soon as I get home. Something mental then clicks.

    I think the key for you might be to do SOMETHING. Even 10 or 15 minutes is something. Just start and the rest will come. Good luck to you! You can do it.
    2840 days ago
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