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Friday, October 04, 2013

I wonder if it gets any easier, ever? I bet many of you want to know the answer to that. I would love to tell everyone that it gets easier but alas it does not.

Does it ever just become natural? Some days exercising feels natural and normal and then other days it’s a fight. I win some and I lose some of those fights.

The truth is that weight loss and living healthy is like life... it’s hard. You are going to face roadblocks. You will stumble and you will fall. It’s how you get up and the choices you make that determine if this is a lifestyle or just a get slim quick plan.

The hardest part of my lifestyle has been to realize that I am never going to be perfect. I have days that appear to be perfect on paper but there are other days I could do more… The true test is getting through those tough days and building on that. The other hard part is to realize I have no control over anyone but myself. I can’t control the food brought into the office, my husband leaving me, him seeing our daughter, other people who eat junk and annoy me because they say that want to lose weight. I can’t do anything about that. All I can do is react and own the choices I make.

Those are tough lessons and they have to be relearned all the time. However, once I got that I was empowered. You only have yourself to control. How much less stress is that to know you don’t need to worry about anyone else. Yes, I know we have husbands, boyfriends, children and friends... But nothing you can do will change what they do. The only think you can worry about is the choice you will make in the moment. You are powerful because it’s your choice and yours alone.

I was reading comments to the blog I posted in September and it is overwhelming the amount of support and encouragement that strangers post to me. If I have learned anything else it’s that you never know what life will deal you but there will be people who learn from you and that you learn from. I only ever intended to use Spark to log calories and to log fitness, but I got so much more from this site than I can ever give back. I made friends and was given a voice to reach people and to have people reach me. I try to respond to everyone; but life happens and I lose track of time. So for anyone who has ever commented, sent me a goodie or an email, please know that every word written was read, appreciated and helped.

My favorite thing I have ever said is you can’t finish until you start. Every day is a start to something. Never quit on yourself because we all believe in you; you just have to give yourself the power to believe in yourself.

This is what happiness looks like
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  • TAMMYR1967
    I really liked your blog entry. I find that quite often I am worried more about what other people are doing than myself. It is too easy to think that way. I have tried to focus more on what I am doing and thinking. It is easier said than done, but I know it can be done. I just need to focus on myself more and blogs like yours really put things in perspective for me. Thanks for that!
    2604 days ago
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    Very good blog! As a "yo-yo" weight loser, I've come to realize the truth of the fact that it isn't always easy. And I now believe that is why I've always gained back the weight. I didn't stick with it and come to terms with that reality that it won't always be easy. It's a constant effort. Your comments are encouraging and inspiring to me.

    Thanks so much for sharing!
    2618 days ago
    You certainly are an inspiration. I love the pictures. What a difference weight makes. What a beautiful child, no wonder you are smiling.
    2799 days ago
  • TINAJ15
    Your progress is inspirational! emoticon
    2809 days ago
    Thank you for the reminder! I do ask myself if it will get easier. Some days are good, some not so good. But I keep plugging along, because I'm happier with myself when I know that I have put forth my best effort. "You got this" has become my mantra. Great blog. Your story is one of the first I read when I started SP two years ago. Thank you for being a great, encouraging, example for me!
    2815 days ago
  • ELSCO55
    2818 days ago
    see a path.. take it for life.. don't think off/on, think lifetime.. don't make excuses.. don't blame others... that's what I've learned from you.. oh! and how to persevere!
    2818 days ago
    Spoken like a true Sheriff! I am so thrilled to have you on our team. You are both s friend and an inspiration! Glad to see you taking charge again!
    2818 days ago
    We Spies are so proud of you!! You are such an inspiration. No excuses! emoticon
    2819 days ago
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    2819 days ago
  • DEE797
    Terrific blog. Thanks for sharing what you have learned with us. Love the pic of you and P, she is adorable and you look fabulous. emoticon emoticon
    2819 days ago
    happiness looks lovely just like you and your daughter look lovely.keep on keeping on you can do this love emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    2819 days ago
    Love the photo of you and your daughter! It is priceless! Great blog...you remind me on a day when I really need it that I can't control others and I need to focus on what I can control. Have a awesome weekend!
    2819 days ago
  • FITAT50
    Well said Chelle! I'm sharing your blog with my Spies emoticon
    2819 days ago
    Wow you have come so far and you are right life is hard. I am working through this right now. Thanks for sharing your story.
    2819 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13245384
    Lovely blog. I'm in the process of balancing my life but what you say is what I've been saying to myself all week...I can't control or change anyone but myself. I make the choice of what to eat and how much to eat and when to be active. You're right you can't finish until you start and honestly...I feel like it will never finish this is a life style change so you will always find yourself making mistakes and learning on this journey. Congrats on all of your success! SP friends are the best supports on your best days and even more at your worst!
    2819 days ago
    You truly are an inspiration to others. You have come along way baby! yes, you've had many obstacles, but, you're overcoming them and encouraging other people as well. Keep it up!!
    2819 days ago
  • MALAMI518
    Great blog! As with all aspects of life, there will be hard days and there will be easier days. You control how you react and the choices you make. It looks like you've made terrific choices!

    2819 days ago
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