Believe it or not I look in the mirror
Thursday, October 31, 2013
My feathers got ruffled this week when I read about the radio station to which a woman contacted to declare she was handing out a letter to obese children for trick or treat rather than candy.
This call was likely a prank and not a real one, but it brings to mind one of my biggest and most frustrating pet peeves. For some reason, many skinny people think it is okay to offer unsolicited weight loss advice. Throughout my adult life, well intentioned "friends" have told me I need to exercise more, try weight loss methods or just generally point out that I'm heftier than I used to be. These same people have never been overweight a day in their life and have no idea what it is like to struggle with food.
I have news for these people. First of all, I do look in the mirror and I do see the weight that hides my face and bulges out of my clothes. I am well aware that I am obese and I am preoccupied with this fact every day of my existence.
Second, I have read about nearly every weight loss method imaginable and tried many of them. Your well meaning advice falls on deaf ears because you can't even relate to what you are talking about.
Finally, you happen to be completely unaware that my polycystic ovarian syndrome and the two different medications I take to manage my depression as well as my depression itself contribute to both my weight gain and the difficulty I have losing weight. They aren't excuses, but they are obstacles so perhaps simply eating less and exercise more isn't as obvious and easy as you make it out to be.
Yes obesity is a problem in America and education and awareness are important. But it needs to stop being okay to judge overweight people. You simply don't know the story behind every person's struggle.