Two foodies at home
Friday, January 03, 2014
My husband, Furly, and I both like to cook a lot, but he does a lot of the cooking because I work full time and he doesn't. He is a good cook, and so am I!
He and I are a bit different. First of all, he can go all day and forget to eat. What is that? Forget to eat? I feel like I think about food ALL the time. He is about 6'1" and weighs about 100lbs less than I do (I'm 5'8"). Like me, when he does cook and eat, he likes rich food full of fat and salt, (although I always eat a larger portion than he does.) We both have spent a lot of time in the restaurant biz, so the tendency is to make the plates exactly the same, and always too big. He stops when he is full. I stop when the plate is empty or I am uncomfortable.
I can't remember Furly ever having made a salad. I'm sure he must have once...
Thank goodness that salads are simple to make. I make two, and he tries to eat most of his because he knows it makes me happy.
So, I'm all gung ho to measure every little thing, and he's not thinking about it at all, bless his heart. (That's so sweet of you to fix me a cup of coffee; now HOW much real sugar did you put in here again, and I know there's heavy cream in the fridge, but you put it in my coffee??)
We eat GOOD food in my house. Lots of organic stuff, pasture raised and local produce. Don't get me wrong; we don't make a lot of money, but we believe real food is a priority. It's just that we eat it smothered in real butter and with good beer and maybe some wine and cheese every other night. It's a sweet life, but I need to reign it in if I don't want to stay this big, and I don't.
It's hard for me to ask him to measure EVERY little thing every time he cooks, but if I remind him to think about it, he will be very careful about the fat, and that helps. Sometimes when I cook, I don't want to measure every little thing either, especially if it's a lot of vegetables that are all really low calories.
I guess my point is that I am struggling with change because it feels inconvenient to someone else. It's getting better though the more I work on it, and he really doesn't find it so inconvenient. That's probably more my perception of it.