An "A-ha" Moment

Tuesday, January 07, 2014

I had someone comment on my Spark page asking about my status which talked about revamping my fitness plan. I began the following response to her, but in the midst of it, I had an "a-ha" moment that I wanted to share...

To answer your question, I began teaching preschool 4 days a week this past fall and my exercise just disappeared. I kept trying to get up and run before school--I have 2 children (6 & 8) who are at 2 different schools, meaning 3 school schedules to coordinate. I discovered I'm not enough of a morning person to get up consistently at 5, so it just didn't happen. Enter the new plan:
On Mon and Thur as soon as parents pick up their kiddos, I head to my gym, which is an aquatic center, for my cardio heavy workouts. I am doing one day of swimming laps and one day of HIIT on the treadmill and stepmill. My DH is working from home on those days and I had to swallow my pride to ask for help for him to be there when DD gets off the bus...

Did you catch it? It was there in the last sentence. "I had to swallow my pride and ask for help"...I am one of those people that tries to do and be everything to everyone. Why is it so hard for me to ask for help? Hmm. I thought about this for a while. I think that it's because, in this instance especially, I am asking for help so that I can do something for ME. Whoa. Why shouldn't that be okay? Do you know how much BETTER I've been for my family since taking this time for me? It amounts to about an hour and a half a week.

The kicker is, DD is 8 and comes home and starts her homework right away. She doesn't really even have an impact on DH being home. Why did I feel guilty asking?

I think I've found my New Year's Resolution...ask for help when I need it and don't feel guilty about it!!

Be well my friends! Have a great one!
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    YUP that about covers it...."ask for help when I need it and don't feel guilty about it!!" Guess I NEED to take a page from this blog for myself! Since I am working on a change, this will be ONE that I incorporate for myself!

    2652 days ago
  • JANET1012
    We all need to realize we need help. I think I may finally ask, too! Thanks for the encouragement!
    2709 days ago
    I'm to the point that I could BEG for help, I just don't know what to ask for. It's so true that taking care of ourselves is so important and affects how we interact with our family. Kids know when you're not feeling like you're on your 'A game'. Love you, Jeni!!
    2717 days ago
    I get it!!! Why is it so much easier to be there to help others than to believe that we deserve help too from time to time.....
    Thanks for sharing a great blog.
    2719 days ago
    It can be hard to ask for help but good for you to realize it's ok to ask. You're not alone in feeling guilty for taking time for yourself. Most mom's feel that way, but again you are right that it is important for you and your family to take care of mom. You have a lot of wisdom of what needs to be done. I wish you the strength to do it! emoticon
    2719 days ago
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    I just happened across your page and this blog. I'm so glad you wrote this and boy can I identify with it. I was happily on track with my routine the last two years until a few challenges hit. My in-laws stayed with us for a few months and my health issues seemed to be revving up. During that time I was trying to do so much, for everyone! Some of it I wasn't even asked to do but felt the need to. I stopped carving out time for me.

    I didn't go to the gym as much as I wanted for fear of putting too much on others with dinners and homework. I even kept my mouth shut when unhealthy foods were brought into the house. I kept my feelings to myself and was all out of sorts! I'm glad I asked for support and stopped trying to keep that S on my chest, lol! The funny thing is people actually stepped up to help me once I told them this is what I need you to do! emoticon emoticon
    2719 days ago
  • TEKRU1
    Good for you! This is a hard one - something I think most of us struggle with. Being super-mom, all things to all people. Not only makes us miserable, taking responsibility for some of the stuff is good for others too!
    2719 days ago
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