Wednesday, February 12, 2014

do you ever just have a jillion million things on your mind all at once???? and the negative thoughts outweigh the positive thoughts.... i feel like i am making myself sick... i worry so much about things i cant control... i know im NOT supposed to do that but yes..... I do it anyway.....p
people always tell me I give really good advice..but i cant seem to take my own.. or anyone elses for that matter.. and let me tell you people have given me REALLY good advice... why cant i take it????? I have so much going on.... im trying to lose weight and make healthy choices... but when my emotions get the best of me and i get upset i want to eat everything in sight... afterwards i feel like crap of course...but i still do it anyway... weird huh... cant figure it out...
my daughter is pregnant and babies are blessings but im not happy.....she doesnt take care of herself so that means she is not taking care of my grandbaby..... what if something is wrong with the baby when its born because of her neglegence? she does not work the dad does not work....who is gonna take care of this baby???? I have 3 other kids I have to worry about and take care of...... people tell me shes is 18 so i have no say.... i understand that she is 18 but i cant just shut my feelings off now that she is an "adult" ........
I also have step children so I have to deal with there mothers which is sometimes extremely difficult...... I could ramble on for hours and hours... I just wish I could come up with some "baby steps" to teach me to let go of what I cant control and stop my binge eating when I get depressed.... my friends keep telling me I have to take care of me before I make myself sick from all the stress........... any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.... thanks for listening
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  • no profile photo CD14327086
    You don't mention if you are a Christian or have a religion to draw strength from.
    Hurt, injustice, and humiliation are more than enough to cause anger.
    If you can pause an think of a positive action to resolve the crisis you will be helping yourself. If you let anger reign it will destroy you.
    Praying you will base all your responses on a solid foundation.
    2608 days ago
    I will pray for you, dear mom.
    I have a daughter 24 who has a 1.5 year old and is pregnant again.Problem is, the drs have told her she shouldn't get pregnant because her body won't allow her to carry another baby full term. The 1st one is a miracle!
    Shes determined~ I have been where you are and daily, sometimes minute after minute I pray for her and her unborn child.
    I do the same for my 2 sons!
    It's a mothers 'calling' I think!
    I know 2 things for sure:


    God loves them all more than I do!

    Della (Hopeful Hearts)
    2611 days ago
  • GENRE009
    Have faith that you have given her enough love, and taught her well about values & ethics. and that she isn't hanging out with promiscuous friends. and also that it is important to believe in God. now have faith in your spirit, and just relax, and put it into God's hands. eva
    2637 days ago
    That's a tough situation. I am an emotional eater as well. People say exercising eases stress and it will help you with your goals at the same time. So when you feel like you're going to raid the fridge, try taking a walk. Your friends are right. You need to take care of you. And have faith that everything will work out. emoticon
    2640 days ago
    emoticon that times are tough for you right now. Some sage advice, "accept the things you cannot change, and change the things you can."

    "If you continue to do what you have always done, things will remain the same."

    If you truly want to change, you can change you, not others. A baby step may be realizing the one thing that you can begin today and add to it as time goes by.

    Blessings to you! emoticon Keep Sparking!
    2640 days ago
  • no profile photo C8TSON
    emoticon emoticon emoticon

    Sounds like very frustrating times. emoticon I think by recognizing that you need to take steps to change is the first step on your baby steps route. It's completely fine to feel angry at these situations--they are very stressful situations. While controlling the situations is not an option, how you treat your own body and life IS something you can control. So, maybe when things get to heated, go for a walk outside and get some fresh air. If you live some place that is bitterly cold at this time, then find another outlet. I would say you probably need more time to think about things, and exercise is the perfect time to do that. It might also help keep your mind off the junk foods.

    Really hope things get soooo much better for you. emoticon
    2640 days ago
    What helped me is reminding myself that I can not control what happens I can only control how I am going to react to what happens and I also remind myself that making myself sick worrying will not change anything either in fact it just creates another problem to deal with. It took me a long time to get where I am and I still have trouble once in a while but for the most part I don't make myself nuts about stuff that I have no control over anymore. I hope that helps. emoticon
    2640 days ago
  • PEGGY11
    Yes take care of yourself first or you won't be there for them. emoticon Just sit in a nice warm bath and meditate about nothing. emoticon emoticon
    2640 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14253479
    You stated in your blog that you get good advice and you don't follow it.

    You also said that you KNOW you can't change anything.

    Until you reach in for the Peaceful place within your mind there is nothing that can be helpful to you.

    2640 days ago
    you need to remember that we control our lives, all we control is how we react. When the stepkids mom is being difficult, just take a breathe, she doesn't control you emotions. All you can do for your daughter is be there. Not with money, or to tell her what she is doing wrong or try to take control. Just to be there. We all have to let the people that can be toxic in our lives not have our power.
    2641 days ago
    When you find out what a few of those baby steps are, please email me. I can easily see where you have some stressors in your life. Most of mine is from past stuff, so the thing I have been repeating all week is: "I have to aggressively and energetically let go of the past", and it has helped, but it just wears me out. I would agree with your friends, to please take care of yourself!!!

    2641 days ago
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