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That moment when you realize you were not invited...

Sunday, March 09, 2014

A little background...I as laid off in June..in fact...my job was cut. No reason as to why...just...you no longer teach here. The school district was filled with serious financial woes. It was a small a school and I have stayed "friends" with my fellow teachers on Facebook, however, today, I stumbled upon a picture of a fellow teacher's baby shower. Yep...I was not invited. I have been hanging on to these "friends" I think for validation that I was liked there and they miss me. Guess not.

***Failed to mention that we are not all working in that building anymore. We are all spread out. Out of the eight people in the picture, only two work there now.

Everyone was in that picture...but me. I strangely hurts a lot. I need to move forward and keeping contact with these people is hurting me. I need to go and unfriend them but feel like I can't. I feel like I am this secret awful person and I don't know it. Then I feel, "why don't they like me?". It was a very lonely job last year. God moved me to a new school district where my talents are valued. It is a perfect fit. I need to move on. I think it is part of my "fat" mentality now...

So...that moment that I realized I was not invited...should be a powerful movement...I exercised a bit and am going to end contacts with them. They don' search me out and won't even notice...but I notice and that is unhealthy.

So here goes...


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  • EJB2801
    Time for a "necessary ending."

    Hoping things are purring along for you now, though!

    2484 days ago
    Good for you. Always surround yourself with people who treat you good. I have a few good friends and cherish those and then have some who are just friendly acquaintances. I have many of those on FB but don't go out of my way to chat or read what they post..just my good friends I keep up with. Sorry that this happened and you now will be a stronger person for it.
    2545 days ago
    Please don't let this hurt you. It seems to me that it is their loss, not yours. As you said, you are in a school district where you are valued. I'm certain that you have made friends there, and they value you, as we do here. So don't spend one more minute on those others. I would happily count you as my friend. emoticon
    2546 days ago
    emoticon I know how you feel. My youngest brother's first grand baby had his one year old birthday party yesterday. DH sister stopped by on her way home and wondered why we weren't there. We were not invited. Didn't know a thing about it. Guess my daughter-in-law was invited, but we weren't. But it's OK. Hurt at first, but there is always a reason for such things. Have a great day!
    2546 days ago
    Sorry they hurt you. It sounds like you have the right attitude to get over it, though!
    2546 days ago
    I know you say that they don't all work in the same school now, but were any of the others let go? Sometimes people just feel uncomfortable in that sort of situation - you were let go, they got to keep their jobs - and so, rather than being a true friend and risk saying something wrong, then just avoid you.

    I think you are right to 'unfriend' them. You need to surround yourself with people that help to make you feel good about yourself. You deserve that, because you are a wonderful person.
    2546 days ago
    Sorry for the hurt, but you are right, time to let them go. It will be very freeing for you!
    2546 days ago
    emoticon I'm so sorry.

    I think it is wise to let them go, and remember, it's not you, it's them! You didn't do anything wrong, and it's their loss if they aren't reaching out to you. I had to leave a job of 17 years, 5 years ago, because of my health, so I know what it feels like to be excluded by former coworkers for things like that.

    2546 days ago
    Hugs...I'm sorry you were hurt sweetie.
    2546 days ago
    Oh..what I failed to say was that...we all work in different schools now...that is why it hurt. Only two of the eight invited work in that school. The girl whose baby shower it was...does not work there, either did most of the others. We are all spread out now.
    2546 days ago
  • SHELTIE2013
    emoticon I don't think people mean to hurt you it is just when they arrange a lot of these events it is around work and with you not being in the same school they just haven't thought xxx

    Good luck on your journey to a healthy body and mind xxx
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