who is the adult here?

Wednesday, March 04, 2015

me: i want a cookie
me: no
me: but i really want cookies!
me: no! you don't need any! focus on healthy eating today! no mini eggs either!
me: grumble grumble

then i realized something. i have these conversations all the time. i'm always wanting something or something sounds really good and i just know i shouldn't eat whatever it is and i tell myself no and that it's not healthy. this morning my conversation reminded me of one between a parent and a child. if dd wanted a cookie or soda or anything else that i am constantly craving and thinking about, i'd say no. i would expect her to listen to me and accept my answer (ok, she's two, but you know what i'm getting at). so why doesn't my inner child respect my inner adult? am i just not listening enough?

i really want to be a role-model to my daughter. i never eat bad food in front of her. actually, i realize i'm a pretty bad closet eater. so why don't i make good choices all the time so i'm not a hypocrite when i'm telling her no?

this realization has given me something to think about. i'm going to start listening to the adult in my head. or the smarter part of me. heh.
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  • KMW987
    I have the same struggles almost every day. Yeah those treats would be nice to have, but they will not help us reach our goals! What's helped me is to not so much completely eliminate them, but try to find healthier versions & then make sure they're portioned and only have them as a special treat once in a while & only if my calories allow. Or make myself have fruit or tea or water before and see if I'm actually hungry or not. Also helps not to keep any junk in the house so we're not tempted!

    You can totally do this! Stay strong!!!
    2251 days ago
    I have learned to listen to my inner adult, rather than the inner child all the posters recommend.
    2253 days ago
    I reason with myself too and if I really want it I'll make a plan a keep it. I think it's just as important to follow through with yourself too if you make a deal or promise. So you know you will follow through when you plan other things too.
    2254 days ago
    Great blog and great point!
    2254 days ago
    The kid 'in us' always wants to act up and out when we want something or our way ............. The super ego as Freud called it needs to be stronger than the whiny part of us (me too) ............... I have to tell the kid in me NO every day) .......... all i can say on short break ........i
    2254 days ago
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