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Saturday, March 21, 2015

Have you ever wrote up feeling like all you can see is everything not going right, or not changing fast enough? Or perhaps you feel unloved and unappreciated? That when it's time for an 'ATTITUDE READJUSTMENT"

These feelings did not happen over night, although you may think they did. No, you didn't just fall into your bad mood based on a single event, but that you very gradually became immersed in a lack of happy thoughts due to an absorption of negative energy from the people around you. It is so subtle sometimes that you don't even realize it until it's too late and has affected your attitude in a big way. Your thoughts increasingly grow overly negative from day to day, gaining momentum, until finally you've had enough! As far as you're concerned, you are unloved and unappreciated, and no one is going to convince you any differently! This is what happened to me when I was sick and had to stay house bound.

Oh, there may be someone out there who thinks, why is she writing about this, how negative. Well, we are surrounded by both negative and positive in our lives. Being immersed with negative energy in the work place today is not uncommon, or when with a family member-- these are real challenges many face today. If you think that you will not be exposed to negative people, think again. And if you think needing an Attitude Readjustment is a negative, I feel sad for you. Because when you are ill or under pressure, you are not emotionally at your strongest, which means those negative feelings need to be fought off or they will gain momentum in your thinking.

So here's a plan to combat those negative feelings you start to feel an attitude you are surrounds by negative feelings:

1). Keep in prayer. Daily used scripture verses to think about and focus on. Trust in God and ask for His help.

2). Keep a Happiness Catalogue: Write down all the things that make you happy. You know, flowers may make you happy or listening to music. Personal happiness can only come from the experience of joy. No no one can do it for you; it has to come from feeling good on the inside. Joy and play need to be in your life.

3) Write a letter to yourself: Sit down and have your "future self" write a letter to your "current self." Use your imagination and fantasize! The sky's the limit! Tell your "current self" how amazing life is! The "future you" is having the time of her/his life!

4) E-motion Is Energy in Motion: When energy moves through us, it takes the form of an emotion. When negative energy is trying to move through us, it takes the form of negative emotion. Therefore, if you've been exposed to lots of negative energy, your body and mind are going to try to release it as such. This is why an adjustment of your attitude may be in order. Crying is an action that comes out from inside and cleanses the emotions. Some people may see crying as a bad thing, making one even sadder. However, the truth is that we feel much better after a good cry. Realize that just as this energy moved into you, it must move out. Accept what it is, let it go, and allow yourself to move forward.

5) Keep your life in balance: . An imbalance in one's life -- caused by an abundance of negativity and a lack of fun and play -- will eventually manifest into a bad attitude. If your life is balanced, and you set aside time on a regular basis to have fun and do things that make you feel happy, then no matter what life and other people "throw" at you, it won't affect you in such a negative way. Everything you encounter will be much, much easier to handle. However, if you wake up one day in a bad mood for "no apparent reason," you'll know that you have been neglecting that part of your life that brings you joy.

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    Well said
    2077 days ago
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    It is hard to stay positive when we are sick at home. Kudos for you, for finding some things to do that can bring back the positive feelings into your life! emoticon

    I agree about crying, it can really help. It releases toxic chemicals, even, that get into your system when you're feeling sad. And you feel lighter afterwards. emoticon emoticon

    May everyone act more positive around you! Sometimes you have to let them know they're bringing you down, but that shouldn't be necessary when you're sick. They should just be on their best behavior. emoticon
    2078 days ago
    Yeah, I struggle with this all the time! I do know that my days go better when I pray the following prayer in my morning devotions:

    O Lord, grant me to greet the coming day in peace, help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day reveal Your will to me. Bless my dealings with all who surround me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul and with firm conviction that Your will governs all. In all my deeds and words, guide my thoughts and feelings. In unforeseen events, let me not forget that all are sent by You. Teach me to act firmly and wisely, without embittering and embarrassing others. Give me strength to bear the fatigue of the coming day with all that it shall bring. Direct my will, teach me to pray. And You, Yourself, pray in me. Amen.

    - St. Philaret of Moscow

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    2078 days ago
    I totally understand, and I've had those feelings myself, with my illness, and not being able to get out much because of it. It feels even more isolating during the months with the cold winter weather, and also adding in to the fact that I'm not able to drive right now.
    2078 days ago
    We are ALL human, that's the way God made us. So indeed we should be feeling all sorts of feelings and emotions, good and bad, happy and say, positive and negative. But we must learn from them and move on.

    Thank you for this blog and it's learning tools !!!
    2078 days ago
    I needed your blog in a big way. You described what I have been going through over the last couple of months. I had a big cry ( uncontrollable crying that lasted more than 15 minutes while I was talking to a friend about what brought it on). I did feel better after the cry but I have some more work to do. My feelings have made me realize I DO need to get into the Bible and study it. I need to search for the whole truth and nothing but the truth. God is good. how else would I have been led to your blog?
    2078 days ago
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    Great blog with good advice.
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    Well said!!!
    2078 days ago
    Great advice! I think you've been watching me, though. emoticon I just may take your advice on writing a journal. Thanks for sharing.

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    2079 days ago
    thank you for this great post.

    It is good to keep in mind, as well, that there are times when it is appropriate to feel negative emotions, as long as you seek to remedy it with proper actions. Crying also releases chemicals from our system that help us avoid heart trouble...that's a good thing.

    thank you I Am His. I liked your idea of the catalogue and writing the letter. Even when we are not personally having trouble, those around us do affect our behavior and emotions. The peace of Christ to you, and those who's shadow darkens your threshold.

    2079 days ago
    Great advice!
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