2,500-3,999 SparkPoints 2,725

Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do!

Wednesday, May 06, 2015

“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”– John Wooden

I have been weight conscience for as long as I can remember.

My awareness began in junior high when my body began to develop curves and shape before many of my friend’s bodies did. Over the course of several months I began to transform from tomboy to girly, girl with a touch of grit. I was active, as I played softball, was a cheerleader, and I had two younger brothers and a neighborhood full of boys; which I frequently found myself playing hotbox , tackle football, HORSE, and many other activities with.

I remained active throughout high school, but always seemed to have to work hard to keep my muscles taunt and my shapes and curves in all the right places. It probably stemmed from heredity and skipping meals and starving myself to stay thin.

After high school, I got married, and remained active, as I continued to play softball and began taking some Aerobics classes at our county YMCA. My husband worked a lot of hours, so I found myself taking more and more fitness classes to pass the time he was away. It was then that I discovered my passion for Aerobics and working out. There was something about hearing those first driving beats of music and feeling those first beads of sweat began to form that truly set my adrenaline soaring. I probably found myself in the best physical shape of my life during this time. And then came my daughter.

Even though I continued to exercise, my family came first, and I wasn’t able or no longer had the desire to spend the same amount of time devoted to keeping in shape. This is when my weight began to yo-yo up and down. I would gain weight, realize what was happening, and try to squeeze in what time I had to lose a few pounds; but gradually, the weight began to slowly creep upward. It was then compounded by the pregnancy of my second child, my son.

It was a difficult pregnancy and I took every precaution because I did think that I could become pregnant in the first place, as we adopted my daughter.. I stopped exercising all together, out of fear of bouncing him out. I developed toxemia around my sixth month; which required bed rest, and 6weeks premature, Derek was born at 3lbs and 10 oz.

I failed to mention that I have always been a stress eater, and having a preemie came with a boat-load of stress. He grew and developed into a healthy little guy, but that worry, doubt and stress was soon replaced with a whole new kind of stress, as my daughter, Larissa was diagnosed with cancer, Medulloblastoma, a malignant brain tumor.

I went back and forth from losing weight with worry, to gaining weight from the comfort of food. Up and down, back and forth, the numbers on the scales would drop and climb, drop, and climb some more. It was a roller coaster ride full of emotion and weight change over the next six year until her ultimate death in 2000. (You can read more about it in a blog that I wrote several years ago entitled “More about my Butterflysongs" www.sparkpeople.com/mypa

Anyway, needless to say, my life was drastically changed. I found myself lost, as my life had revolved around Larissa’s care for so long, that I no longer felt like I had purpose. Derek was in school, as he was now eight years old, my marriage was falling apart because of the grief we had experienced, and I decided it was time to go back to work. My husband and I eventually divorced ; which brought another stress, and In order to keep my mind busy so I didn’t have to think about what I had lost, I immersed myself in my job and began exercising again. I even began teaching Aerobics classes again.
Well past the mourning period of losing my daughter and my marriage, I met a new man, and I began finding a new purpose in life. I found myself happy again and at the age of 35, in the best shape that I had been in a long, long time. I remarried, gained a step-son, and received one promotion, which lead to another, and then another at work.

Unfortunately, life is never without stress, and the promotions at work lead to more pressure and longer and longer hours, to the point that I once again had no time to exercise and more stress eating. This was compounded by the baggage that came with second marriages, teenagers, and the anxiety of gaining weight and being out of shape…..again.

Jump forward 13 more years to today. I am soon approaching 50, which arrives in October. I am 50 plus pounds overweight, have high blood pressure, still with the same stressful job, some of the same second marriage baggage and my teenagers have moved into young adulthood, not always so gracefully. And several weeks ago, I realized that it was time for a major change. I was tired of feeling horrible, tired of looking horrible, and feed up with having a horrible attitude. I decided it was time for “Operation 50 and Fabulous”…. And so here I begin.

It’s time for me, time for eating right, time for exercise, time for losing weight and learning to keep it off. I know that I will never be able to teach 12 high impact aerobics classes a week again. I know that I will never have the tight and taunt body that I did when I was 22, or even 35; but I know that I can have the best 50 year old body that I have ever had. I know I can make taking caring of me and my health a number one priority, along with my family. I know that I can learn how to lose this weight and keep it off, once and for all.

I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do!! I can do this!
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
    What a great post - thank you for sharing your story!
    2257 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    Great blog, Diane! You could always make the switch to teaching water aerobics! I did after I used the water to deal with a totally degenerative hip to keep what little range of motion and flexibility I had at that time until the doctors would consent to performing surgery, and then rehabbed in the water from a total hip replacement. I had to give it up several years ago to take care of my aging parents. I cant' say enough about the power of the water on the human body and spirit. If you are interested, i can answer questions - just email me.
    2269 days ago
  • SPARKZY2002
    Thank you for sharing your story =) Find the things that are important to you, stick with them, make it better and you will be successful!

    emoticon emoticon
    2273 days ago
    Thank you for sharing - this certainly puts my worries in a totally different perspective.......
    2275 days ago
  • VEG_GIRL04
    Such a wonderful blog! Congratulations on your decision to be the best 50 you can be! emoticon
    2275 days ago
    emoticon emoticon
    Great Blog!
    emoticon emoticon
    emoticon emoticon emoticon
    emoticon emoticon
    2276 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3505101
    Wonderful blog - thanks!
    2276 days ago
  • 56ROSE
    Thanks for sharing your story. Me time is so important! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2276 days ago
    Way to go girl!!
    2276 days ago
    Your last paragraph sums it up beautifully. "I know I can have the best 50 year old body that I have ever had." Resonates with me as well. I tend to have unrealistic expectations of myself, and this one sentence put it into perspective. Thank you.
    2276 days ago
    What a story and thanks for sharing!

    Love the "Operation 50 and Fabulous" I am right there with you and on the same mission! emoticon

    2276 days ago
    2276 days ago
    You had the Fitness bug once you have it dormant, just waiting to come Alive again.
    I wish you much success. Maybe a change in work would help too?
    Sometimes a job can consume your Life and that's not a good thing. Happiness has to come in there too. The only way I can see someone Over Working is if they Love love love their job. Not too many people can say they do.
    Look at Denise Austin, and Jane Fonda. They both have amazing shapes. I too am getting a YMCA to start going too, its being built and I can't wait to be a recognized, faithful member. I love the interaction with other people and cant' wait.
    In the mean time I am going to be on a BLC28 Team soon.
    (Biggest Loser Challenge)
    here on Sparks. Find a Challenge on Sparks.

    2276 days ago
  • JIMA64
    Time for you to focus on you. Good luck.
    2276 days ago
    2276 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.