Last night was the first real "event" I've been to since I got serious and adopted my new "Sparkatude." For those of you who don't know what a Sparkatude is, it's a type of attitude that will enable you to be a winner in the area of weight loss and lifestyle change.
For years I bounced around Spark People, and several other popular weight loss plans/groups in between, with no success.
I lost a couple of pounds - blew it - quit - and did whatever I felt like until the next time I decided I needed to get healthier and lose weight.
I've now embraced my new and improved "Sparkatude" and I'm doing great. I live by the rule of one day at a time, and I'm not beating myself up every time I eat something that isn't a "diet" food. Tossing out my obsessiveness with every little thing, and not trying to be "perfect," has been a huge step for me. The result of this turning from "perfectionism" to "best-I-can-ism" has helped me realize the first goal of my health and weight loss plan - feeling good about what I'm doing.
It also is the reason I not only got through, but enjoyed, my BFF's birthday party - without my former day-after regrets and self-loathing that I always would have in the "old days." Here's how it went this time:
I went to this party knowing that I had eaten lightly and sensibly all day. I was offered a beverage by BFF's DH, and I opted for a glass of diet tonic water on ice with a twist of lime. This, by the way, was extremely refreshing since it was a balmy 112 degrees here at 6 p.m. I socialized with all the other people at the party and, when the time came, I joined in for the singing of Happy Birthday To You, and then enjoyed a small piece of birthday cake and one scoop of vanilla ice cream.
When I got home, I immediately entered what I ate in my tracker. Amazingly, I enjoyed the party - had my cake and ice cream - talked and laughed with the other guests - and stayed within my calorie range. All in all, I had a wonderful time.
Was I "perfect?" No. A perfect person would not have eaten even a sliver of cake. Not a teaspoon of ice cream would pass the lips of the "obsessive former me!" But that old me would have soon felt sorry for herself and would then have methodically sabotaged her efforts until she just gave up. Instead, I had a lovely evening celebrating my friend's birthday and enjoying a piece of her delicious birthday cake.
I am loving my new and improved Sparkatude, and I encourage everyone to adopt the Sparkatude that works for you! Just sit back and take a long, hard and honest look at what you have been doing that has kept you from reaching the results you desire. No excuses. No self-protectiveness. Just look at what you've been doing over and over that has kept you stuck - and then just change that one thing
. Is it easy? No. But, dose it feel good? Yes. It was hard for me to be brutally honest with myself, but with the help of God and a good deal of determination, I'm finally on the road to success - and I intend to stay on that road, no matter how long it takes!