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Year Of Yes Day 12

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Saying YES is still working for me even though I am behind with my blogs. I want to share a victory I had this weekend while visiting DW's family. For 10 years now I have had to deal with comments ranging from my weight to how much money I spend. Trying to avoid conflict as much as I can usually means I stay far, far away from him. This weekend I decided he wasn't even going to get a reaction from me except a smile and possibly support for a few of his comments. Sure enough I was sitting at the table just finishing my breakfast when dad decided to discuss my weight. I am working with a nutritionist who asked me to record my meal intake for the next two weeks. He decided to make several comments about my size and how I might need several people to help keep track since I eat so much. I actually told him i have gained weight and I am looking to him for his help! I am sure this was not the reaction he was looking for! My entire Sunday was filled with comments from him especially when we were alone, but I never took the bait. I am changing everyday and this weekend just proves just how strong I am!

In the next few weeks I leave for Chicago and my DW stays to get the house on the market . Being in the military one is never sure where you are going until the very last minute. I am pretty sad dad and I wont see much of each other until next year. Just when I am getting used to him I have to move!

Over the last three weeks I have been throwing out pictures, letters, clothing and other items from my past. I am saying YES to becoming this 58 year old woman who has power over the past! All I could do was smile the entire day!
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    Some of us have negative voices inside us that makes us feel bad about ourselves. It's really awful when that negative voice comes from someone who supposedly loves you! I'm so sorry that you had to deal with all of that, but I'm so glad that you stayed neutral and positive throughout all of that. Sending good thoughts to you as you prepare for the next phase of life. Please keep reminding yourself that you are AWESOME, because that's how I think of you. AWESOME.

    Big hugs!
    1942 days ago
    Sounds like a major accomplishment not reacting to him, but personally, I would not expose myself to that kind of negative behavior. Dad or not, that is just mean the way he was talking to you. It always feels good though when we don't fall into the old stuff, good for you.
    1943 days ago
    Good for you. Stop those negative voices at your door. I wish you continued success with everything!!! Spark on.
    1944 days ago
    What an accomplishment !!!! I can tell how proud you are of what you've been able to do and you truly should be. Continue to stay positive and you will conquer more than you can imagine !!! You're on the right path.

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    1944 days ago
    WOW, you are really getting strong with your "yes" work! Keep it up!
    1944 days ago
  • MAYIE53
    I don't know you (yet) or much about your situation but I would call this a MAJOR VICTORY. I have a 23 year old daughter who lives with me and I rarely hear a positive comment come out of her mouth. Like you, I am learning to not take the bait. It is sometimes difficult but I remind myself that I cannot change others; I can only change my reaction to them. GOOD FOR YOU!!!! Keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1944 days ago
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