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The kids moved out.

Thursday, July 28, 2016

SO, after a year, of having my darling daughter, her insipid boyfiend, and her beloved cat, at my house, I demanded that they leave by August 1. They got an apartment, they moved in, and last night, was the first night alone in my house in a year. It was AWESOME.

I let them come, because I will ALWAYS let my DD come, stay and be welcome. It was the boyfriend that was so damned hard for me. I could not imagine how much having a guy in the house would interrupt my life, invade my privacy and literally drive me nuts. I could not imagine how a young man could be so fully unprepared for life. He almost electrocuted himself, trying to play with my circuit breakers. He screwed up the plumbing, by attempting to use a snake, not understanding whatsoever what one was used for. He couldn't wrap brown paper around a package. These seem to me, to be basic things that a kid should know. Not a boy, a kid. My DD knows EXACTLY what a snake is, how dangerous a circuit breaker can be if you touch the wrong spot, how to wrap ANYTHING. She knows so much more than that, because I believed that those were life lessons that she needed to know.

I admit, she knows more than the average kid, but I had to do more than the average Mom. I was a single parent for her entire life, and we never had very much money. I had to make do, I had to fix things, I had to replace toilets. She saw me do all of it, and I taught her how. My biggest compliment lately, was when she told me that someone at her new awesome job, asked how she knew how to do so many things. She told me she told her boss, "I have a single Mom", as though that answered every question. It doesn't, but it made me VERY happy.

I love my quiet, I loved the time getting to know my DD as an adult, love the heck out of her cat, and hope she doesn't get married to ANYONE for a number of years. I told her, finally, yesterday, how I felt, and amazingly, she agreed. I raised a smart, and now, independent kid.

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    Finally getting a chance to get caught up on SP, and I saw this news. WOW. I'm glad that MF's new job has given her such a great feeling of independence, and now she has the freedom of her own place, and two pets to care for. (That's supposed to be FUNNY! LOL)

    Seriously, Tanner doesn't know how lucky he is. I hope that he learns some good life skills from MF so that when HE is finally ready to leave the nest, he won't kill himself in the process. He seems like a sweet doofus who is well-meaning, but they don't seem to be a good pairing.

    Enjoy your new paradise. Thinking lots of good thoughts for you. XOXOXOX
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  • HEDSTS58
    My parents taught me things like you did your daughter. My Dad was not well with a bad heart and he taught my sisters and I how to do things. He;d say learn this because I might not be around to do it. It AMAZES me how my parents do not teach their children anything and how unprepared for life kids today are. You did your job well. Congrats
    1828 days ago
    Enjoy your peace and quiet. JOB well done w/DD. You have every reason to be proud of her.

    1828 days ago
    I have known for a long time that women can get along fine without a man but alas the men can't get along without us women.
    1828 days ago
    I love that feeling of being alone in my own home. I actually encourage Tom to go out on overnight trips so he can do his outdoor painting, taking photos, fishing, and whatever he wants to do. I'm happy to stay home and enjoy the peace & quiet.

    I wasn't exactly a single mom, my ex-husband quit his job when our twins were 3 so he could work on being a potter - at which time I got a full time job. He was suppose to take care of the kids, cook the meals, clean the house, etc. He did that for about 2 weeks, maybe 4. After that I had just one more kid to take care of.

    So I, too, taught my kids to take care of things. As soon as they turned 6 they were responsible for dishes. They took turns setting the table. I pre-made a lot of meals but they had to get the in the over and do the extras. Once they were old enough, they had to do their own laundry. And the older ones had to help the younger ones. It's the only way it would work but I'm proud to say that they have each grown up to be independent people who can take care of themselves.

    You did a great job with your daughter and it sounds like she is very proud of you!
    1828 days ago
  • no profile photo JEANNETTE59
    Job well done and it is obvious that your DD loves and respects you for it. Enjoy your privacy and relax.

    1828 days ago
    YES! Great for you!!!!! Why is it SO hard for us to state how we feel? I believe it is 1 of the reasons, we have weight issues!

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    1828 days ago
    emoticon enjoy your peace and quiet!

    glad you told DD how you feel. I know that some people will immediately go to the 'it's none of your business' camp, but I do put value in the opinions of those that I respect. I would definitely take a step back if my mom, dad, or sister had trepidations about someone I was dating.
    1828 days ago
  • JANET552
    You are awesome!! Go and enjoy some quiet (I am so jealous)!!
    1828 days ago
    Good for you! Was wonderful that you opened your home, but it WAS time for them to move to the next stage of their lives and let you get back to yours. ENJOY!!!
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  • PHOENIX1949
    1828 days ago
    I miss my kids so much but we did a good job. My kids know what they want
    1828 days ago
    You did your part as a parent well. Brava! Enjoy your privacy.
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