Just a Little Obsesssive

Wednesday, December 07, 2016

I love my job. Since I started it nearly two years ago there has been one, count it - one, day that I hated it. Every other day I love it. I love what I do. I love the person for whom I work. I love my coworkers. Love, love, love it.

Back in 2010 I started working for the IRS. Talk about a soul-draining experience. Things didn't go well there, and in 2012 I found myself needed to find a new job. I am a professional historian, which means I am qualified to ask if you want fries with that, which I have done. But I really didn't want to go there again. So, with my DH's blessing, I started my own genealogy business. It was great. I loved it, and I sucked at the whole marketing a business. The genealogy was great. The getting clients....not so great.

Fortunately, I had begun working as a consultant for a Salt Lake City genealogical company (Legacy Tree Genealogists - the highest-rated for customer satisfaction!). Eventually they decided that they couldn't live without me, bought out my business and hired me on full-time. That was in April of 2015 and I have never regretted it.

The only problem is that I work from home. For most of you that would not be a problem. But you see, I am just a little bit of an obsessive. That means that I tend to work 12 to 14 hours per day. And then some on Saturday and Sunday. Not because they ask me to do it. Not because I need to get caught up. Because, if there is unfinished work on my desk, I have to finish it. And there is always unfinished work. Currently, I have projects in my queue that will keep me busy full-time through mid-January. Sometimes I am booked out two full months in advance. Business is boomin' and I am good at what I do.

But that means that while I am happily working away, Scott arrives home for lunch at 1230 and I am still in my jammies working away. Ditto for when he gets home at night at 2130.

Yeah, not healthy.

The only thing that gets me out of the house is when it is my day to take care of Leon. Or I have to go to the grocery store.

Recently I was asked to write about my hobbies and interests. I sat there for five minutes and could not think of a thing that I do besides work. I don't run anymore. I don't have time to read (for those of you who know me well, this will be very telling: I have Bruce Springsteen's biography sitting on my desk. It has been here since the day it came out. I have not cracked the cover yet.) We have given up Civil War reenacting (that is a painful subject still). I have no hobbies!

This also means that I get no exercise. And I eat crap at all sorts of terrible times.

Hooray for working at home!

Those of you who aren't obsessive don't get it. I realize that. You would walk into your office, do you day's work, and walk out without a second thought.

But work is also the place where I get my pats on the back. Every time I turn in a project the project manager tells me how wonderful I did. Managers frantically seek my assistance on other projects that went sideways. The owner asks me to be the liaison with other companies because of my knowledge and skills. Ego stroking to the nth degree here, so why would I want to quit? Especially when almost everything else in my life is a shambles.

But being here is a big help already. I am a bit competitive, so I want those points for exercise. That has gotten me exercising (although in truth, many of those points are related to mucking out a stall....what do you think? is it more like shoveling or raking?) And blogging has made me think about something other than work. The fact that some of you have commented on my blogs gives me the positive feedback I crave.

Joining one of the challenges (Zen Fitness for 30) has also helped me look for other things to do. Last night instead of working I spent the evening making a felt Christmas tree for our grandson to play with on Saturday when they are coming over to help get the Christmas stuff up. Jeremy will be on the roof with Scott, which makes me feel a zillion times better about that part of decorating.

So, thanks to you for being here with me. Thanks to my grandson for giving me a reason to do other things. And a bit thank you with a smoochy kiss to AINTSKEERD for asking me to join her here again. Otherwise, I would be working right this minute.
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    Maybe one thing you could do is to make a work schedule - you know, like if you had to go out to work. Pencil in that lunch break (and stick to it). And before you fire up that computer, doll up a bit. Get out of your jammies and into some "business attire" even if it is jeans and a tee shirt. I'm talking real clothes here, not sweats or other workout attire. Do your hair and put on a dab of whatever makeup you like.

    Then after you have to go deal with Leon, take a break for some "you" time. Do a bit of walking or other exercise, set a timer for 10-15 minutes and start reading that book (if it works for de-cluttering, it should work for any habit you want to acquire). Then when you have taken care of yourself, you can get back to your job if you wish.

    During the day, take a few small breaks to walk around a bit. It will get those juices flowing...


    1616 days ago
    When you do what you love it isn't really work. I'm glad though that you are realizing you need to find some balance in your life. Continue to work at letting it in and allowing yourself to find you again.
    1619 days ago
    Kate, you and I are very much alike in the area of work and how we respond to those back pats and kudos. It is the thing that makes us "aholics". I have the good fortune of being able to walk out the door for my job and during the course of my day, I typically walk 3-5 miles at work. But I know if I worked from home I would be in the same boat as you. When I reached out and you told me you would "think about it" my heart sank. I know how much we feed (not literally) off each other, so when you caved emoticon I was ecstatic! You are already kicking my butt on the blogs, and exercise for that matter, but I will catch you.

    1619 days ago
  • BERRY4
    I think the challenge for all of life is finding BALANCE. When the pendulum swings awry, life gets out of balance and there is fall-out in one or many directions.

    Choosing to figure out what you can do to move the pendulum in a more balanced direction, the healthier you can be in terms of relationships, home life, food, exercise, friends, hobbies, AND work.
    BTW, mucking out is closer to shoveling IMO. I haven't mucked for a horse (DD has), but I have mucked for other livestock & such.
    1619 days ago
  • no profile photo CD16644385
    How great you found work you love. Schedule a lunch break each day and take a half hour to eat and a half hour to walk. Listen to books on tape as you walk. Make this a habit and pounds will come off before you know it.
    1620 days ago
    Yes, working at home for a good deal of the past decade or more, I understand and often overwork. Be careful and take care. So glad you love your job.
    1620 days ago
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