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Weight and Job Search

Sunday, April 16, 2017

I've gone on about 10 job interviews in the last month. I have yet to get one offer, even for jobs I'm overqualified for.

The reason this is strange to me is because in the past, when I would get an interview, I usually end up with an offer or at least a chance for a 2nd interview.

But now at my heaviest weight, I'm feeling like the odds are stacked against me. During my last interview, I could almost see the look of surprise on the employer's face when he first saw me. It was for a marketing job, so maybe he was expecting a "perfectly polished" person. My weight is affecting my ability to get a job.

I've always known there is discrimination out there and that people have strange attitudes towards overweight people, but now I'm feeling it in a real way. It's the first time in my life where I feel like I HAVE to lose weight in order to pay my bills. I stayed up all night last night worrying about this.
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  • MARIENOW
    Thank you everyone. I will keep trying. I spent the whole day sending more resumes. I'll try to keep a positive attitude and I'll remind myself to smile. I probably don't exude confidence or strength right now, so that could be the issue too. I'm pleasant but probably don't come off very secure in myself. Also, I do have to remind myself that I'm overqualified for many jobs in my area. I'm far away from any large city so there aren't many jobs to begin with. Also, I do leave off some of my experience from my resume because if I were to list everything, I would never even get one interview. I guess I just need to regroup and try to keep a positive attitude. It's just very depressing.

    Thanks again emoticon
    1369 days ago
  • MILLER-S
    Unfortunately, there is weight (and age) discrimination. Still, there are good people out there who will hire, I'm sure. It will just take finding the right person. Remember to smile - if you're like me, you might be going in feeling less than your best and it may be reflected unconsciously in your face or manner... it's just a thought.
    1370 days ago
  • MIH4LIFE
    People do not want to believe there is discrimination out there towards overweight people. It is rampant.

    Maybe you can see that those places would not have been a right choice for you or a pleasant environment to be in 40+ hours a week. I worked in an office where a woman and a couple men would talk about me and make jokes, laugh about me. They didn't think I could hear them, but you know you can hear thru office walls easily. Adults are bullies.

    Don't take it on yourself. If they have to act like that, they have some major insecurities inside they do not want to admit to.

    Best of luck!
    1370 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    I know that what you say is true. I have observed it many times. It's sad and unfair and employers are passing up a lot of great employees to choose people on the basis of looks. It makes one wonder what their real motivation is.
    1370 days ago
  • SYLPHINPROGRESS
    It stinks that there is bias against overweight people, but this is no reason to back away from the job search until you lose weight. What's that expression, "Life is happening now, not 20 pounds from now?" Something like that. I have dim recollection of arriving for an interview about 500 years ago, being greeted by the person I was to see and being ushered out within seconds. I was stunned and, of course, deeply hurt and bewildered (being only in my very early 20's at the time and not yet quite alert to the ways of many people). Now that you've brought it to mind, the only comfort I find in the incident is that that man had to go through life being himself.

    P.S. Don't expect an offer of a job that you're over-qualified for. Would you have hired yourself in that situation?

    P.P.S. "I HAVE to lose weight in order to..." -- You'll do much better if you view losing weight as a gift to yourself, a gift in many ways. If you see it as punishment, you're sunk.
    1370 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/16/2017 12:45:41 PM
  • CATLOVER110
    Good luck with your future interviews! emoticon
    1370 days ago
  • no profile photo L_DROUIN
    You can do the weight lose thing and get on a healthy journey. You are still the talented person so a new job will happen. Stay positive and SMILE! Worrying just causes you to not sleep and get up tired and stressed.
    1370 days ago
  • ANNDANDY
    I'm so sorry. Use it as a reason to get healthy but never give up
    1371 days ago
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