Saturday, July 01, 2017
I met a friend for dinner last night. We haven't seen each other since January. We met at her house. When she opened the door and saw me she said, "You're so thin, you look like a normal person."
Okay? What does a 'normal' person look like? I am thinner than when she last saw me but I always thought I was 'normal'. I actually asked her. She was surprised by my question, but answered me. What she meant was I no long looked fat. I accepted her statement as the compliment she obviously thought it was, said thank you, and we had a lovely dinner and visit.
However, her reaction made me think. Are we not seen as normal because of our weight? Just what criteria defines normal? Me, I though I was normal, just overweight. I still think I am normal, I just weigh less. So is that another judgement we face? When someone meets me are they first focused on my weight? Do I do what she did and, even unconsciously, judge the individuals I meet by appearance? I don't think I do but it did make me think about how I react.
I am normal. You are normal. Normal is where we are right now. We may want to be thinner, healthier, faster, etc. but that is normal. Wishing to improve ourselves is normal.
What you weigh does not define 'normal'.
So thanks, I think?