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Thanks...I think?

Saturday, July 01, 2017

I met a friend for dinner last night. We haven't seen each other since January. We met at her house. When she opened the door and saw me she said, "You're so thin, you look like a normal person."

Okay? What does a 'normal' person look like? I am thinner than when she last saw me but I always thought I was 'normal'. I actually asked her. She was surprised by my question, but answered me. What she meant was I no long looked fat. I accepted her statement as the compliment she obviously thought it was, said thank you, and we had a lovely dinner and visit.

However, her reaction made me think. Are we not seen as normal because of our weight? Just what criteria defines normal? Me, I though I was normal, just overweight. I still think I am normal, I just weigh less. So is that another judgement we face? When someone meets me are they first focused on my weight? Do I do what she did and, even unconsciously, judge the individuals I meet by appearance? I don't think I do but it did make me think about how I react.

I am normal. You are normal. Normal is where we are right now. We may want to be thinner, healthier, faster, etc. but that is normal. Wishing to improve ourselves is normal.

What you weigh does not define 'normal'.

So thanks, I think?

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    I know your friend meant it as a compliment, but it would have secretly hurt my feelings. I think a lot of people judge others by their appearance. I think it may even be a subconscious thing. I know sometimes I do it and I really do not want to be that way. I guess I am still a work in progress which is why I often pray that I can be more like Jesus. emoticon
    1404 days ago
    emoticon Good for you to ask your friend to explain. Hopefully she will think before she speaks and give you (and anyone else) the full compliment that is deserved for working so hard and successfully at getting healthy. emoticon emoticon
    1405 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/2/2017 6:27:22 PM
    Well, good you could ask her to explain normal (not that it was a good explanation) and get on with catching up and enjoying each others' company.

    1406 days ago
    I live Patsy Claremont quote " Normal is just a setting on the dryer " We live in a culture that teaches us what is normal we need to come back to our senses ! You are doing a great job getting healthy !
    1406 days ago
  • no profile photo PATRISH64
    I get it.... like some people are quietly judging your size.... your friend didn't mean bad, but is sadly showing her prejudice. It's hard for some who have never struggled with weight. Hugs.
    1406 days ago
  • LYLA_2015
    Yes, I totally agree. I have gained quite a bit since my son saw me and I imagine he will think I look abnormal. I think I do sometimes judge people for their weight, so normal for him to judge me.
    1406 days ago
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