FIDWITS and other games.
Saturday, June 02, 2018
A fidwit is a "Food I Don't Want To Eat". The acronym doesn't work perfectly, but fidwit is easier to remember than is FIDWTE, so work with me here.
There are two kinds of fidwits in my mind
-- something that should be saved for very special occasions (birthday cake)
-- ingredients for healthful cooking that call to me (cheese)
I think of them not as foods I can't have, because I CAN have them. They just need to be included in my tracking. I know myself well enough to know that forbidden fruit is sweeter, so I won't forbid myself to eat them. I just don't WANT to eat them right now. In a recent blog I gave myself a list of good reasons to remind myself of why I don't want to eat them:
I've found a small stone and I've painted FIDWIT on it. I keep it in my pocket when I go shopping. When I look at a FIDWIT of the first type (candy, treats,) I touch the stone and ask myself if it's someone's birthday or another special occasion. When I look at a FIDWIT of the second type (things I use for recipes) I ask myself if I'm being honest and buying just what I need for the recipe and if I'll be using it soon. So much of buying fidwits for me is not consciously making the decision to buy it but just throwing it in the basket because I always buy them and I'm out or because it looks good. I tend to use shopping lists now, but even with the list it's easy just to toss in something else. I fool myself into thinking, "I'll make something good for me with that" when if I thought about it, I'd know I'm just going to eat the whole thing.
Fidwits are easier to avoid if I don't buy them. Mind games where I fool myself are why I've bought them in the past, so I'm making new mind games to see more clearly what I'm doing.