Friday, August 10, 2018
I saw this great information in Dean Anderson's article and wanted to remember it, so I decided to include it in tonight's blog entry. Dean Anderson writes that tough love has the following elements:
"it forcefully points out that the thought/behavior in question isn’t a very good one, but it doesn’t attack the person for having/doing it;
it acknowledges that the person you’re speaking to (yourself, in this case) has good intentions and values (honesty) that can be used to come up with a better approach;
it frames the problem as a conflict between different desires or needs, both of which can be legitimate, and rejects the idea that one choice is inherently “good” and the other one “bad.”
it challenges the person to step outside the perspective or assumptions they’re currently using, and find a more helpful way to look at the situation."
I'll try to remember these elements and provide myself with tough love.