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Sticks and Stones

Thursday, August 16, 2018

When I was growing up, I would often hear the phrase, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me." They lied. Words do hurt. I think it would easier to recover from a slap in the face than to overcome cruel words. Words stick in my mind and are sometimes difficult to forget. I have had to deal with hurtful words from a loved one this week. As a result, my main problem has been trying to avoid emotional eating, which is not usually a problem for me. I have also been depressed and just don't feel like doing anything. Time to "pull myself up by the boot straps" as I also heard growing up. If I don't get anything but discouragement most of the time here, then I just have to learn to be strong, rely on Spark support, and get back on track. I am so thankful for all the encouragement and support from the Spark community. You are all emoticon . Thank you! emoticon
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    Don't 'beat' yourself up with the words that were said.. you will use them to continue to beat yourself long after what they said!

    Don't 'eat' yourself up with the words that were said.. you will use them to continue to eat yourself long after what they said!

    It's about them and their cruel words

    779 days ago
    emoticon To forgive is to set a prisoner free ...
    and then discover that the prisoner was you.

    Sending all healing thoughts to you today
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    837 days ago
    I have finally gotten to the age when I don't care what other people think or say about me. I wish I'd learned this earlier in life, it would have saved me a world of grief. There are some real advantages to getting old.
    838 days ago
    I have found that forgiving those who hurt you helps take away the pain. Sometimes forgiving is hard but it's something we need to do. I'm sorry this happened to you. Take care of yourself the best you can. You are a remarkable person. Stay strong and be positive.
    838 days ago
    Sorry. Those closest to you know how to stab the worst. For this sort of thing or when I’ve hit rock bottom has led me to vision boards or positive self talk. All forms of this helps. Another suggestion to me from a skilled clergyman was tell yourself “in that moment they were doing the best they can”... This may mean they are so messed up that their worst comes out but this is all they your best to dismiss or clean-up their destruction and move forward. A simple mantra like “God bless you” when you hear their voice ovEr again may break your thought pattern and move you forward. I found it helps...and initially thought the guy was bonkers.
    838 days ago
  • READY201811
    Emotional hurts and insults goes to the core of who we are. I once read for everything negative thing we hear about ourselves it takes 1500 positive to undo and none of us get that much affirmation which is why the put down insults hurts stick with us and hang on. Emotional eating is a hard habit to break and the book I am now reading is due to a chemical reaction that our body responds to when our emotions use the chemicals and in order to replace that is the high we get from sweets carbs etc
    838 days ago
  • NEWNAN18
    Words are like toothpaste once they’re out they can’t go back in
    838 days ago
  • PDTB58
    Words are hurtful and stay with you forever. Try to remember...we never know what's going on in the life of the one who is hurting us. It helps me
    838 days ago
    So sorry to hear you’ve had to go through that. I agree that words can be more painful than physical abuse. Praying that you’ll be able to forgive and get through this. Stay strong and do what’s best for you
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