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Being Infantilzed - My Wheelchair Ride

Friday, April 05, 2019

Well, yesterday marked my 7th wheelchair ride. I find it worth remarking that these have only occurred in hospital or doctor visits. Yesterday, I had a visit with my neurologist before my Ocrevus infusion. She is special. It's not her day to be in the practice but as she knows I have to take car service, she comes in for me. She ran late yesterday. The infusion center is 4 little city blocks. I could have done it in less than 5 minutes when I was well. Now, my husband is directionally challenged. NYC is primarily a grid, d'uh. Last time, she had a security guard wheel me over. This time, she produced a new sleek model and handed it to my husband. It was a wild ride.
We had car service and I had to use the walker to get to the car. The driver, who was in my age range, repeatedly called me honey and dearie. I appreciate courtesy and concern but this was not. I may be physically feeble but that is all that is feeble about me.
I find that when I am in a wheelchair I am either being talked down to or literally ignored. I want to carry a sign that says, "it's my legs,Stupid! Not my brain."
I find people infantilize me. It's a combination of being small, more mature aka older, and disabled. I hate it.
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    ~hugs~ I've only had a few wheelchair rides in my life and felt the same... infantilized or invisible.

    Still keeping you in my thoughts and hoping good things for you.
    749 days ago
  • JOHAL52
    I hear what you are saying. It must be much worse when you are in a wheelchair but I have just had a "discussion" with my dh where I basically felt that I was being talked down to and that my words were being twisted to what he wanted to hear. So thanks for sharing your perspective on your situation, it helps me to put things together. emoticon
    755 days ago
    Oh Suze, I so hear you. I reckon that women of a certain age become invisible to society. More so if they have physical difficulties. So lets go rob a few banks. Imagine the response when the Police ask for descriptions. "I dunno, bunch of wimmin weren't it". "Yes but what did they look like"? "I told ya, bunch of wimmin". We can't lose!
    840 days ago
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    845 days ago
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    I'm very sorry about that. People can be so stupid sometimes, usually without even meaning to......
    845 days ago
    Your attitude is never going to help you.
    846 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
    846 days ago
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