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Motivation Where it comes from, Where it goes and How to keep it

Wednesday, November 13, 2019

Motivation Where it comes from, Where it goes and How to keep it

I made the decision to go on this journey. I made goals, planned my meals, drank water and tracked daily. After just a few days, I felt motivated. I was doing something and I began to feel good about my efforts. I began to believe that I could actually solve my problems. That was the beginning of motivation.

Everything was going along PERFECTLY and then one day, I had a difficult day or a small slip. Imperfectly following the journey was frightening. The negative thought intruded. I’d felt them many times before. If I couldn’t follow the journey perfectly, I feared I would fail once again. I didn’t even feel I deserved to succeed. That was how in the past, I lost my motivation and eventually quit.

Keeping my motivation going was my priority this time. I’ve learned some things that are helping me keep going. Reaching my goal isn’t going to happen overnight and I needed to make some serious changes in my thinking.

I needed a way to stay positive. Harsh negative thoughts grew in my head as a young girl after a diet failure. I actually thought it was my fault that I couldn’t stay on a 900 calorie diet by willpower and without support. I thought I could use my strength to tough it out. Part of me still felt guilty. Those expectations were unfair and I needed to forgive myself for creating those negative thoughts. That’s when the negative thoughts let up.

It’s a journey not a diet. Slips are normal. Past diet failures were tied to “Perfect diet thinking.” Let that go.

Making new choices is challenging. I am choosing new healthy meals. Not all of them are a success. I am adding new healthy habits and not all of them fit my lifestyle. I need to be brave while I experiment and learn about new healthy behaviors. It’s okay to try something and then reject it and choose something else. That’s not a failure it’s tailoring the journey to fit me.

Learning to recognize all the positive changes I was making showed progress was much more helpful than perfect. You make 100s of choices in a day. Count the healthy ones first because it keeps those other choices in perspective.

Celebrate every healthy choice you make, every healthy meal, fitness minute, water and resisting temptation. Celebration quiets negative thoughts and drives fear away. Be sure to reward your hard work.

Remember to look at your progress before you step on the scale. Remember none of us loses weight every week. Weekly losses are a false belief. How many healthy choices did you make this week? How much easier is it to follow your journey? How was your salt intake? Did you discover a trigger food? Honestly evaluate your week. Whatever the scale reads, you are doing so much better than you did in the past.
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    So true, all or nothing thinking never works in our best interest.
    Motivation ebbs and wanes. Time spent here on Spark helps me stay stoked: reading articles and blogs, encouraging other Sparkers and being encouraged. Thank you for visiting my blogs. That is so encouraging.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts today. We learn so much from each other.
    23 days ago
  • SHAKTI816
    I absolutely LOVE THIS!!!!

    You have so many valuable insights. Thank you for sharing. And thank you for continuing to offer encouragement and advice. I really appreciate you!

    25 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    30 days ago
    I may have posted this here before, but my goal is to have more good days than not so good days. When looking back on the days of the week or of the month, if there are more good days than not, then I consider that a success.

    Good luck on your journey. Stay positive and keep pushing.
    30 days ago
  • L1VEL1FE
    Excellent tips on celebrating our successes...not just focusing on the scale. Thanks!
    30 days ago
    Thank you for sharing.
    30 days ago
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