Result: You are an ultra-perfectionist.
Tuesday, January 14, 2020
Your inner perfectionist appears to be in charge. And it’s probably not easy -- impossible standards often make you feel miserable and keep you from doing, saying and being what you truly want. To escape from the perfection trap, here’s one area that you can work on: Taking a broader view of yourself and your capabilities.
Have you ever thought to yourself “I’m not brave,” “I’m not the kind of person who takes risks” or “I’m just not good at saying no”? Declarations like these are the very definition of what it’s like to be trapped in a fixed mindset. They leave no room for growth or progress -- they’re a dead end.
But look what happens when you add one small word to the end of these statements.
I’m not brave … yet.
I’m not the kind of person who takes risks … yet.
I’m just not good at saying no … yet.
By simply adding “yet,” you’ve suddenly gone from stuck to free. You’re growing towards something -- you’re on your way from where you are to where you might go. Stanford University psychologist and pioneering mindset researcher Carol Dweck (TED Talk: The power of believing you can improve) refers to this as embracing the “power of yet,” as opposed to “the tyranny of now.”
This small mental shift can have a powerful impact on your life, especially when it comes to reframing mistakes. Less-than-perfect attempts don’t have to put a hard stop to your story; instead, try turning an “I blew it” into an “Okay, I tried that and now I’ll try something else.”
None of us is a finished product; we’re all works in progress. Next time you catch yourself making a blanket declaration about your limitations, add a “yet” onto the end and you should feel the difference.