My "Why" isn't Lofty but it is Motivating
Friday, June 05, 2020
have read many success stories and most of the "whys" are truly admirable -
1. wanting to be strong for children and grandchiildren
2. wanting to turning around an illness
3. wanting to stop physical discomfort and start living
4. wanting full participation in a life event
I've tried those goals, but they have been true, Here's the truth-
My stepson is a shallow young man. He is disparaging about anything and anyone who isn't attractive. For years he was proud that I was his stepmom, in large part, because of how I looked. Then I gained weight and got squishy. I lost favor in his eyes.
I know. I know. He has a lot of problems. I am aware of them but the distance between my head and heart is a long distance. I've fought against using this as my why because it's icky.
However, I don't care anymore. If this "why will fuel my fire, I don't care how nuerotic it is, I', going to use it.
The funny thing is, because my stepson is sooo troubled, we are estranged, so this "Why" isn't even real. He won't be seeing me any time soon. I won't be getting an approving look for years for any reason..That doesn't mean that it can't be my "why".
Don't make your "Why" for anyone else because it looks good, make it real for you.