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Tuesday, June 16, 2020

I read a blog where someone said they were "sad" for a relative who is overweight, but the blog contained critical statements that made the overweight person sound quite inconsiderate and lazy. Maybe they are inconsiderate and lazy - I don't know them - but the blog writer said they didn't know them well, or at least, that they aren't close. I even shared the blog with my husband to get someone else's take on it and he was shocked. He didn't think someone should be airing their family member's situation on a forum like this and he didn't think it was kind. Some of the comments on the blog were unkind, as well.

I know a lot of people here at SparkPeople have had stellar successes. That is wonderful!!! Those who have found success have worked hard, earned their success, maintained it long-term and should be very proud of themselves.
What I don't think successful people should be is judgmental of those whose experiences are different.

For some, being overweight may involve an eating disorder, or a mental or emotional illness, some physical condition, or even be a problem that is exacerbated by medications a person takes. The point is that you really don't know what's really going on with someone unless you are living inside their skin.

I generally think of SparkPeople as an incredibly supportive place. People here are, for the most part, very kind and encouraging. I have found, however, that some of the most supportive people are on the Dealing with Depression Team. I think it's because those people know what it's like to suffer each and every day from something you can't get away from - your mind - and also your body and what depression does to it.

Just wanted to leave a few little reminders to myself and others....

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    This blog needs to go viral!!!! Well said!
    36 days ago
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    47 days ago

    I SO AGREE. No matter WHAT the reason a person remains overweight, judgmental people are not helping, they are hurting. AND they have no right to be judgmental at all. That's so rude. Glad you brought this topic up because it's not only important, but it goes to show that even some Sparkers just don't get it, don't realize the ramifications of their hurtful comments.
    50 days ago
    So well said, my amazing friend!!! What a great blog!!
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    Thanks for sharing it with us...
    52 days ago
    This is a great blog!
    I know which blog you read. I read it this AM.
    You also gave me a lot to think about!
    52 days ago
    emoticon for such a kind post! emoticon emoticon

    52 days ago
    I hope many spark people see this blog; it certainly is worthy of attention. I would tend to feel as your husband did at the mention of an overweight person. And like you say, we never know what is going on with someone else, and it is not our place to judge. It is fun and feels good to encourage others, and do what we can to help; I have to say I have my days---of lots of pain, and I don't want people judging me for not knocking em dead! .... Thanks for posting this message. Nicely said.
    53 days ago
    I wish people weren't so judgemental. I was at a buffet one night years ago, in fact I was fat.when a obese woman was heading up to get food. Someone I was sitting with said Better get some food before hippo inhales it. I said something to them and they didn't think they said anything wrong.
    53 days ago
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