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9/24/19 10:29 A

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I'm rooting for you. You so totally can get to where you want to go. Stay focused on making small improvements and give yourself credit for what you've done no matter how small. It all adds up in the long run.

"Success is holding on when you feel like letting go."



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9/24/19 5:26 A

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CHERIE? How are you doing?



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9/6/19 12:34 P



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FISHYCAMI,

How old are you ? As we grow older, our bodies do change. And depending on your age, you could still be at a healthy weight for your height.

Let's just talk about what to do when it comes to eating a few too many desserts or sweets.

Question, what do you eat during the day ? are you eating healthy foods that are not only nourishing, but filling ? If you're not eating enough during the day, that could cause you to crave the sweets at night. many people in an effort to "be good" will drastically cut their calories in an effort to jump start their weight loss.

Well, this can backfire on a person and cause them to eat more. What are you eating during the day ?

Here's one simple thing you can do that will help you decrease your cravings for sweet treats. Eat more servings of fruit. Fresh fruit is loaded with FIBER as well as natural sugars instead of the highly processed sugar in desserts.

Think apples, bananas, plums, blueberries, pears, etc... whatever is in season or on sale. Eating more fresh fruit (veggies too) can help decrease your cravings for highly processed sugary desserts.

Question, have you have thought of WHY you eat the desserts ? The next time you feel an urge for say, a slice of cake or cookie. Ask yourself WHY do I want to eat a cookie ? am I really hungry ? when was my last meal. Am I stressed out ? Am I upset about something ? Am I bored ?

Think about why you eat the treats. Knowing why will help you control the urges.


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9/5/19 11:00 P



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@FISHYCAMI - For you to be concerned about your weight at 120lb, you are either extremely short, or you have nothing to worry about.

At 5' you would be well within a normal healthy weight, and even at 4'10" you would still be a healthy weight at the higher healthy BMI.

Do you mind my asking how tall you are? and, has your Dr evet indicated concern about your weight?

If you want to eat sweets, either don't buy them, or nibble on a date. At least a date has fibre and other good nutrition. I often eat a dessert, but it is very small. I always used to have just fresh fruit or some yoghurt for it, however the trick is to wait an hour and then have it. It reduces possible mindless munching in the evening.

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9/5/19 9:42 P

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I have been at my highest weight ever. It is 120 lbs. I keep eating desserts and won’t stop to quit them. I have already quit chips. I either eat no sweets or a lot, there’s no balance. Any recommendations for ways to stop eating sweets.



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8/30/19 9:19 A

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Cherie, again ignore the external judgments - especially those which no one actually said to you, but you only imagined. Even if they really are thinking that, don't worry about it. Remember YOU are in control of YOU. If you stayed at this weight and were happy with it, that would be your choice, and no one else's business but yours. If you choose to lose it, that is your choice, too, and no one else's business.

(Coming here to share your struggle is different because you are inviting others in to offer support for your choice to lose weight, not to judge you.)

I think you need to shake off the idea the you are trying to prove something to other people. You are taking control of your health for YOU and no one else. Yes, they'll notice when you drop some weight and get more fit and you'll hear words of encouragement. That's great for your motivation, but it is still just an external judgement, and the real reward comes from how you feel about yourself. Enjoy every day that you live in your body (what else can we do, after all?) and treat it well with nourishing foods and just enough exercise to pump the blood a little and blow out the cobwebs. This isn't about anybody else, this is only about YOU and how you choose to treat yourself.



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8/17/19 8:11 A

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I was over 300lbs
I lost down to 140lbs
gained a bit after having surgery
gained back up to 270lbs pregnant/postnatal depression for months
I lost back down to under 200lbs
gained back being pregnant again!
Now trying again....

Stuff other peoples opinions, you do this for your health, your life, your motives.



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8/17/19 1:25 A



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CHERIE682 - please don't feel like that re loss/gain again. A LOT of people have exactly the same thing happened - it is very common.

I think you need to sit and analyze things. What did you do to lose that 100lb previously? Some things to consider:
* Did you lose it too quickly?

* Did you weigh all your food and when you lost the weight you stopped weighing it?

* Did you change too many things too quickly?

* Did you cut out specific foods - especially ones that you were particularly fond of?

* Was there a big change in your life that things got overwhelming?

I guess there will be some other examples you may be able to think of. If you can identify any problem, then that will help to lead you to success this time round.

For example, if you changed things too quickly the first time round, it's a real good example to just make those changes gradual. If you cut out certain foods, perhaps allowing them but only occasionally, and in smaller quantities may help you to stay on track.

You can do this. YOU can do this. You CAN do this!!!! Just have faith in yourself and trust the process!!!!

Take care,
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8/16/19 11:06 P

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CHERIE682,
you have to do this for you. You want to be healthier, you want to loose the weight to be able to do the things you want to do (whatever they are). It could be to be able to walk a mile in a day and not kill your knees doing it. It could be to have a better choice of clothing. It could be to get up and down the stairs easier... What ever your reason it is for you.

You are putting ideas in other peoples heads. That they will be judging you as you loose weight. Well they might be, ... but so what? Don't let your anticipation of what they might be thinking (or not) stop you from getting healthy. Do it for you, they are irrelevant.


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8/16/19 7:39 P

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thank you for stopping by and adding to my post. I have been asking myself a lot about what I am afraid of, and one of the answers is deep down I feel like a failure. I have lost this 100 lbs before and gained it all back so I feel (and I should know it is not true but...) like people know and are thinking "there she is again, how long before she quits this time".



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8/16/19 1:55 P

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Hi CHERIE!

I'm glad you checked back in here. You are right with your statement "Small consist changes is what I have to work on". You've got this!

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8/16/19 1:17 P

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No where to go but down. Make that your mantra and be steadfast in gradually getting to your goal.

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8/15/19 4:58 P

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Thank you for the advice, I am capable of do this and avoidance help is not the way to live any part of my life.
Small consist changes is what I have to work on.



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8/12/19 10:47 A

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Well you kind of hit the nail on the head when you said, "I'm out of control, and I don't like the feeling at all."

Here's the hard truth (which is given in a spirit of understanding, because we all struggle with the same hard truth): NO ONE CAN BE IN CONTROL OF YOU EXCEPT YOU.

Once you wrap your mind around this truth it is actually very liberating. Because you don't need to look to anyone else to make your weight loss happen or (on the flip side) to stand in your way. You've got this - this is YOUR life, and YOUR body, and you can do with it what YOU want to do.

When you look at your stomach, just remember, "Hey, this belongs to me, and what I do with it is MY CHOICE." You can choose to let it be the way it is, that is entirely up to you (which is also very liberating, if you look at it that way.) On the other hand, if you don't like the way it is, you can make the choice to change it and that is entirely up to you as well. It's your call, so just ignore the external judgements and decide if YOU want to live with the 260 lbs or not. If not, then today is the day to make a change.

If your goal is to lose 110 pounds, that sounds like a long way to go and can make the whole process seem more than you can manage to do. Rather just decide to make a small change TODAY and don't worry about losing 110 lbs right now. Just decide that TODAY you are going to do something better for yourself than you usually do.

If you usually drink soda, drink flavored sparkling water instead. When you're drinking it, imagine the pure, fresh water (without all the sweeteners and chemicals) cleansing and refreshing your body from the inside. Eat a crisp, juicy apple when you'd usually eat a doughnut and imagine the fiber, vitamins, and minerals nourishing your body rather than damaging it. Take a short walk, just a little bit faster than is comfortable. You don't have to kill yourself, but push yourself just enough to breathe deeply for a few minutes, and think about that oxygen reaching every cell in your body and giving you more energy. Think about it - no way are any of these things going to make you feel WORSE, right? They can only make you feel BETTER, and who doesn't want to feel better?

The good news is that if you do have 100+ lbs to lose, a few changes in your diet and exercise can give you some pretty quick results. But even so, you don't have to worry about how far you have to go (worrying that far ahead isn't going to make it happen any sooner, so don't even bother.) Just take it one day at a time. Do something good for yourself TODAY because you deserve it and you're worth it.




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8/12/19 12:33 A



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Hi Cherie - It sounds to me like you need to have a good talk with your Dr about what is happening and your reactions, and ask for a referral to a Therapist to help you deal with whatever is there blocking you. That would be very beneficial to your overall health - mental as well as physical.

Please remember, you are not alone. Often fear of the unknown will cause a person to do this - kind of like "better the Devil you know than the Devil you don't!"

You know, if you made just ONE small change - perhaps reduce juice/soda/alcohol and increase water, or reduce cakes/sweets and instead have a piece of fruit, and then a week or so make another small change, you might find that you get on the road. A lot of people want the changes to all take effect right now, and when it doesn't, they get very disheartened. Knowing that it doesn't work like that can also cause a person to feel that it is too much effort to try. However, I can assure you that those very slow changes make the biggest difference in the long run. You are far more likely to achieve your goals, and then you are far more likely to not go back to what was. It kind-of tricks the mind into thinking that THAT is how it has always been.

Good luck,
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Hi, Cherie !

I agree with the others. Why are you running away ? The Spark Community is here to help anyone who asks. No one is here to criticize you.

Honestly, every single one of us have been in your shoes. We know what it's like to gain, lose and regain the weight. That was the past. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future.

I've always given new members one piece of advice and it's this,"don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

We really are here to help each other. Don't be afraid to reach out.

Why do you feel you have to run away after posting ? What are you afraid of ?

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8/11/19 2:20 P

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"I ask for help and then I avoid the people and Spark."
Why?

"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
~ Randy Pausch

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
~ Art Turock

"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good."
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8/11/19 12:42 P

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Ask yourself why you are running away from the help, advice or support you are offered here.

Are you afraid of failing the supporting people?
Are you embarrassed to get help?
Are you finding advice to be condescending?
Or whatever reasons you find buried in your emotions?

People are always ready to help here.



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8/11/19 10:31 A

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I am at my highest weight ever. I can't seem to get back on track. I know what I need to do and I know how to do it but I am living with blinders on. I look down now and my stomach is much larger than my chest, I sweat in the weirdest places and it is hard to walk a mile.
I ask for help and then I avoid the people and Spark. I am out of control and I don't like the feeling at all.
50 and failing.



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