YMATTOCKS, on that feeling alone thing. I'm posting here so that you know you aren't alone.
Yes its nice to have someone "in the flesh" to share a journey with, but we are here too, and at the end of every letter, or key pushed on a computer or tablet is a real person.
I can't add a lot to what has been written. I agree with them. What goes into your mouth (or not into it) is really up to you, it doesn't depend on someone else. So yes, you are doing this for yourself! Do it!
You can search for spark teams that meet you style, whether it is more greens, less calories, Keto, exercise, whatever, you can search for a team. One thing, take a look at the teams that your search pops up, look at how active they are. I hate to discourage teams that are slowly fading, but from your point of view you probably want to join a more vibrant team, one where you can interact with folks each day, or perhaps every 2 or 3 days at most. Posting on a team and not having a reaction for a long time is not at all motivating (well, not for me).
YMATTOCKS - I am really pleased that you now realize that you aren't alone on this journey. All you can do is to resolve to take it one day at a time. You WILL get there. You just have to have faith in yourself, faith in the process, and fully take on board that you are the only person who can do this.
Honestly, you're doing a lot better than you're giving yourself credit for doing. losing 55 pounds is FANTASTIC ! Don't feel bad if you think you may have slipped because you haven't.
Remember, you are not a machine who can eat right 24/7. you're a normal human being with normal human needs. There will be days you eat more than others. it's going to happen. As long as it doesn't happen every day, you'll be fine.
What do I recommend ? Take baby steps. Set some simple goals. example, if you haven't been eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you haven't been exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 20-30 minute walk each day for one week. If you haven't been drinking enough water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week.
Once you've completed these goals, you do them again or start new ones. Setting simple goals is how we slowly ease into a healthier set of habits.
Rome wasn't built in a day and neither were you.
You are a work in progress !
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10/25/19 10:14 A
Thank you all so much. Yesterday was a terrible day for my program and I felt sort of alone in the journey. You all changed that. I woke up this morning with a new resolve to stay strong in my program. I think I need to join a group that is enthusiastic and motivational. Any suggestions would be welcome.
One day at a time...one meal at a time...one bite at a time. Support of friends and family. This I can do!
Congrats on the 55 pound loss. That is huge. I also want to emphasis what other have: you need to do this for you. Yes, having your partner working on healthier habits at the same time makes it easier but ultimately, your are doing this to be the best you possible. You can do it!
Meghan in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA
December Minutes: 1,408
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30,985 10/25/19 3:27 A
Well done!!! Losing that amount of weight is excellent.
Whether your partner decides to continue on the weight-loss journey is obviously his choice. Just remember, you don't HAVE to have someone physically share it with you. It comes down to YOUR choices in what/how much to eat and your exercise. My late husband never shared my journey as in 'our journey' and he had many very serious health issues which warranted it. I still continued weighing all my food and entering it all into the nutrition tracker. If he ate junk when he was out, that was his choice. He never ate junk meals at home, tho'. Sometimes he would tell me he didn't want our dinner, so what I would do was cut up all his veggies and make a mornay sauce and put the veggies in that. He didn't realize it was still healthy and he would eat it and LOVE it. LOL!
You have the support of the many SP members so keep posting and we can support you with feed-back or whatever support you need from us.
on losing those 55 pounds! That really is fabulous. And, while you may have had a partner working with you towards a common goal, you alone are responsible for all that you have accomplished.
There are so many here on SparkPeople who are working towards similar goals. I encourage you to continue posting in our message boards and Community feed to share your journey and chat with others who can support you and whom you can support.
You can do this!
"I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do." Edward Everett Hale
Fitness Minutes: (65,492)
10/24/19 9:26 P
As for your partner not continuing the weightloss journey, you have to take charge of your health for your own self. It is always nice to have someone else with you, but it doesn't always workout that way.
Remember why you started the journey, for YOUR health, for YOU to feel better... then look back at how far you have come. 55 lbs is a great accomplishment!!!!
Please keep up the journey, even if you have to go it alone. It is YOUR health, YOUR body. Do it for yourself!!
Your spark family is here. Keep up the great work, and stay focused!! The journey is worth it.