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2/24/20 1:33 A

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You don’t have to order from the menu.

Simple say to the order taker: I’ve been having excellent success on weigh loss, if you could please tell your chef to fill my plate with a delightful selection of vegetable sides. I rarely have been hassled by this. If I am, I say “what would you suggest”. Of course if there is a broiled fish or lean chicken you can have that. A low cal alcohol is a wine spritzer ordered with extra sparkling water.

Unsweetened ice tea or hot tea is helpful too. For each bite of food, try to lift your glass at least three times.

Just because you are out doesn’t mean you have to start putting things in your mouth that you don’t want to. Ask for what you need, menus that show calorie counts, wedges of lemon instead of salad dressing, requesting cheese is limited to a 1/4 cup on salads, extra low cal sides, limiting oil used in prep.

Also have grace with the one you are hosting by keeping a cheer attitude and don’t over talk food.

Have fun :)

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2/21/20 12:58 P

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Sorry you disagree that looking out for the comfort of your guests might include things like not imposing your own fitness, weight loss, or health goals on them or dragging them on long walks through the city, especially in the winter.



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2/21/20 11:48 A

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"I'm going to disagree about the walking tour"
You are assuming (projecting??) too much with your reply.


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2/21/20 6:19 A

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@GLITTER_PIGEON Is your friend visiting already? If so, how is it going?

Personally, I disagree with not suggesting a walking tour if available, Hopefully, you know your friend well enough to know his or her physical limitations, likes, and dislikes. And hopefully, he or she would speak up if you suggested something if not up to it.

Truly, I hope you are having a lot of fun!

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2/20/20 8:47 P

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It can be difficult to eat out while trying to consume fewer calories. But, it's definitely possible. Look at menus online, first, to see what might be lighter in calories. You can also inquire about how things are cooked. Ask if it's possible to get them to do things like leave the butter off of your steamed veggies, put any dressings on the side, etc.

Don't automatically assume a salad is a lower calorie choice. A lot of times, the salads are the most calorie (and salt) filled items on the menu. If you get a salad, ask for the dressing on the side. Dip your fork times in the dressing vs putting the dressing on your salad. Watch out for things like crispy fried chicken on salads, because that will add a lot of calories. Ask if you can get grilled chicken, instead.

Surprisingly, a lean steak (ask them to not put butter or extra oil on it when cooking), veggies and a plain baked potato can be one of the better choices. It all depends on how things are cooked. Don't be afraid to ask.

Don't eat a lot of bread or breadsticks or chips, if these are included with the meal, as the calories will add up quickly.

I'm going to disagree about the walking tour, splitting food with your friends, and other things that involve imposing your health goals on others. There are a good number of reasons why someone might not enjoy a walking tour, e.g. foot pain they don't want to admit to, not enjoying being out in the weather, being more out of shape than they want to admit, being tired from traveling, etc. Also, you do not want your friend to feel like they have to split food with you (but not want to admit they'd like their own food). If I were asked to split food to save calories, I'd be too embarrassed to admit if I didn't want to do that. People can extra-hungry and embarrassed to admit it, just want to indulge, or whatever. I'd recommend just ordering what you want, and letting your guest order what they want, so you know your friend is happy and isn't going to go to bed hungry or wanting. People will agree to a lot of things they don't really want to do to avoid embarrassment.



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2/20/20 5:22 A



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Ditto what the others said.

Just remember, a few days is not going to make any difference in the long term. Just remember that walking tour and enjoy yourselves emoticon

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2/19/20 6:06 P

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MLAN613 is right. I was going to say the same thing, but MLAN613 beat me to it.

Look up restaurant menu's on the internet first, pick based on that, have your choice in mind before you go.

Also, ask for substitutions. I myself avoid carbs ... so when the menu says one of mashed potatoes, rice, fries, and two of cauliflower, broccoli, green beans, corn ...

I ask, can I not have one of the first three, and three of the others rather than two? In other words ask for minor changes or substitutions.

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2/19/20 6:36 A

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Great suggestions so far. I do say enjoy yourself but maybe develop a plan of attack so you aren't completely derailed. Many restaurants, even local ones, have their menus online. Not all will have nutrition information but maybe you can pick some items that will work and do your best to track ahead? And maybe eat a little lighter for your other meals to balance out the heavier restaurant food.

Another idea is to order what you want and get a take out box for when the order comes. When you get your meal, immediately put half into the box. Depending on the sides, maybe put some of those in too. If the sides are vegetable forward, maybe eat those and add your own when you eat the other half at home?

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2/18/20 3:48 P

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As often happens, ARCHIMEDESII said what I was going to say!
Have fun with your friend.

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If you have a friend in town, play the tour guide. Take them on a walking tour of all your favorite local tourist spots. I've taken friends and family on walking tours. It's fun and a great way to burn off calories by staying active. Don't drive when you can walk.

As far as eating, no one says you can't enjoy yourselves. Indulge, but don't overindulge. If you both would like a treat, share it. that's half the guilt. LOL

Having a friend or family in town doesn't mean you have to give up your healthy habits. You just might have to modify them a little.



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