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6/1/10 3:02 P

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"Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character." ~Albert Einstein

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting." ~ William Shakespeare

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely...” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"I get up, I walk, I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing." ~Rabbi Hillel


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5/20/10 5:11 P

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i used to get attention, guys would make me feel so pretty, now i can barely get any reaction from my husband or anyone--it's not like i want to cheat on him or anything but if someone hit on me like in the old days it would make my day

" I chose this life. I know what Im doing. And on any given day, I could stop doing it. Today, however isnt that day. And tomorrow wont be either." - Batman

"The greatest griefs are those we cause ourselves." -Sophocles

"If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." ~ Nora Roberts


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4/5/10 10:09 A

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I've seen women of all figures, facial types, ages, etc. look HOT. Especially older women. You're not older so this doesn't apply to you, but older women have a confidence and grace that makes them hot, regardless of a few wrinkles.

I'd say fake it 'til ya make it. It may feel weird, but what I do is before I go into a room (especially full of strangers), I psych myself up. I KNOW I'm hot, even if I'm not feeling it that day.

Strut your stuff! If you want a tan, I'd go with sunless tanners. Tanning beds can be dangerous for your skin. Heels can help.

I don't believe that there's any body type that is hotter than the one we all have and should love.

I have 2 cousins who are models (where did the beauty gene go for ME? LOL!!!). One is anorexic, literally. She takes diet pills, starves herself, and over-exercises because she thinks she's "fat", even though she wears a 0/2. Before she had kids she was a lingerie and bikini model. Now she models clothes. She has no confidence, and I have to admit is not hot at all.

Then there's my plus sized model cousin. She wears a 16/18. She has all the confidence in the world, enough for you and me both. She's totally beautiful and hot! She gets hit on all the time, more than the skinny cousin.

Why? I do believe this proves it is attitude. They're both beautiful women, but one knows it ande the other takes diet pills when she's already too skinny.

Go for it and strut your stuff! Life is too short to worry what other people think anyway. So what ex boyfriends said cruel and untrue things? That's probably why they're EX boyfriends!

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4/2/10 12:43 P

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I know this post is quite old, but I struggle with similar things (and I'm on the other side of 40).

I do get male attention, some, but I want to make the most of what I have while I have it, and don't know how to go about it.

Looking at my body objectively (as best I can) I think I can BE attractive, I just don't know how to go about it ... and how to believe it in myself.



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5/29/08 8:18 A

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Thank you so much everyone with all your advice. Thank you for your compliments as well. I am starting to feel better about myself a little bit more here and there. See I know that my husband thinks that I'm beautiful and he thinks I'm sexy but when I was younger all I wanted to do was fit in and be liked just like everyone else. I was a pastor's kid in a small town which made me stand out more than anything. I had no self esteem and no self confidence. More than once I was broken up with and told to my face that they broke up with me because I was ugly and stupid. I know that I am not stupid and I know that I should be over this by now, but everything like that sticks out in my mind to this day. So that is where I continue to have no self esteem and confidence. I can not help but think of those words whenever I look in the mirror. But day by day I'm working my way through it. Now, if I could get back on the workout wagon I'd feel even better. I'm sorry for my "sob story" but thank you so much for your advice. I appreciate all of your help.

Don't look back just keep pushing forward.

Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired. -Jules Renard.

I love that quote!


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5/28/08 3:45 P

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First of all, you need to have excellent posture! Stand straight and tall all the time. Hold your stomach in. Don't wear dumpy clothes, even just hanging around the house.

Always smell good. Nice shampoo and hairspray, pretty lotions, and fabric softener for your laundry (I think Downy liquid is the best).

You could wear sexy underware, or no underware, and let your dh know about it, like if you're going out to dinner, just give him a peek while you're in the car and then he'll be thinking how hot you are and how he can't wait to get home. Then, you'll feel hot knowing he wants to jump your bones (which is probably not a problem anyway, but this way makes it a little taboo and fun).

Don't confuse being sexy with looking slutty.

My husband likes "blow job" lipstick. Red with lip gloss.

Good luck with your tricks! You look absolutely beautiful to me in your pictures!



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5/22/08 10:37 P

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Not to sound weird, but I looked on your page and saw your wedding day picture. I wished I'd looked half as hot in the wedding dresses I was trying on!

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5/21/08 1:36 P

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being hot is like 10% looks and 90% attitude. you do what you can with what you've got - but what really makes the difference is how you carry yourself and act. i am sure the weight loss, haircut, and a cute outfit could give you just enough of a self boost to get you on the way :)

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5/12/08 8:43 A

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Thank you so much for all your advice. It's helped me get a little motivation back and to help me figure out what makes me feel confident. Thanks again!

Don't look back just keep pushing forward.

Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired. -Jules Renard.

I love that quote!


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5/11/08 6:53 P

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I agree you have to love yourself and be confident with yourself in order to be hot and sexy - HOWEVER. Sometimes in order to FEEL confident, you've got to make some changes to your physical appearance and that is up to each individual to determine what those changes might be for yourself. For me, I love it when I've got a tan, when I've got some make-up on, and when I've got awesome hair. The hardest part for me is awesome hair, lol. Mine is very straight and thin and I feel like it never does anything! So for me, I really FEEL better and more confident when I have good hair. So yes, maybe a trip to the salon for a new 'do would make you feel happier as well. I try to *research* things ahead of time to figure out what I like and what would look good. I look at styles I like on other people. Yes, I'm a copycat! emoticon If I notice something that looks nice on another person, I may try to go out and buy a similar outfit (but also keep in mind your own body type - not everything looks good on everyone). Or I try to think about WHY I'm so impressed with someone's looks. Sometimes even a really great pair of earrings or a necklace really sets your look apart and makes you stand out. But the bottom line is that when you go out for YOUR 21st party, pick out an outfit that you feel comfortable in and that you know looks good on you - because then you will be confident (and therefor, sexy!) to your hubby all night long :-)

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5/8/08 9:31 P

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MARYMAYBE-

Tell me something, why are you friends with this girl? Is it because she has a nice body or becuase she is fun to be with? And tell me this, why are you with your husband? Is it becuase he is physically attractive to you or something deeper tan that? To me its about appreciating yourself for all the reasons that your family and loved ones do - those are the things that count to me. You must first learn to love and accept yourself for all of the wonderful qualities that you process and that is when the beauty within you will shine through. You may never look the same as your friend but no one else will ever look like you. Not to sound to cheesy here, but I believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way, and if you except and love yourself for who you are inside it will show on the outside. Not to mention you will be able to strut your stuff and be confident in your sexiness!

You ARE hot!

Sarah (:

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5/8/08 6:23 P

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I always feel better when my hair is blond .when my hair is brown I feel depressed. My husband always says everything is better blonde .

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5/8/08 5:29 P

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I also think you have to feel sexy to get the sexy reactions from people. For a LONG time I felt the way you do. Tanning definitely helps me feel good about me and nothing is better than a new hair style and some new colors in makeup and clothing. Trying something new could also get a reaction out of him. For example, I don't wear dresses or low cut tops very often but on special occasions that I dress up, I get the much needed WOW from my man.

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5/8/08 5:13 P

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If you dont feel sexy you wont be sexy. you cant fake sexy. You have to walk in a room like you have the best pu!@y and you know it, stand up straight , smile, flirt with your eyes...baby girl its about being a woman....i wish my husband would say dam to my friend hmmm....dam ass on the couch

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5/8/08 4:15 P

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Can't help you in the some boat dont every have a husband or boyfriend sorry

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5/8/08 3:38 P

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I am 20 years old about to turn 21 in October and I feel an ugly duckling. Ok, don't get me wrong, I'm not a "dog" as my husbands friends would call it, but I've never been "beautiful" to anyone but my husband, and no offense but that doesn't count haha. I'm sure that all you ladies know what I mean. I want to feel like I could walk into a room and turn heads, get a howl, or at least attract someone's attention. My best friend is hot as all get out and has (in my mind) the perfect body, so that doesn't help lol. But she has a very sexy dress that she's wearing to HER 21st birthday party and my husband saw her in it and immediately goes: DAMN. Ok. I love him and I know he loves me, but I've never gotten that reaction from him. I've never gotten that reaction out of anyone at all. She complains about how old fat ugly guys hit on her when she goes out... how about having no one hit on you? I know that I'm not exactly ugly, but I definitely don't feel pretty. I feel like a fish out of water, especially when I go out with my best friend... So my point is I'm dying for some tips that everyone uses to help themselves feel confident and sexy. I want to do some things to build my confidence and work on my look. I want to be smoking by my 21st. I want to lose 5 lbs get a tan and get a hot haircut. Other than that, I need some help. Anybody have any tricks?

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