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2/11/11 6:00 P

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no not offended just decided that maybe I shouldn't be talking about this sort of stuff online about my personal life

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1/30/11 7:34 P

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I'm confused about the topic desired to delete...
I read the responses and am confused. Did someone get offended?

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1/14/11 5:40 P

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delete topic please

Edited by: MRS_AQUARIUS at: 1/15/2011 (21:29)
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1/14/11 4:42 P

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My daughter is 16 now but when she was 12 omg she gave me such a hard time. I have 4 kids. She's the only girl. You do have to demand respect and show them your in control. You can use punishment and mean it, but also look into is something wrong? My daughter needed counseling. This lasted until she was 14 ( very close to 15) Now she is a honor roll student, she is very respectful, she plays the piano, she's very involved in church. She changed some of the friends she hung out with. She has positive outlets. Sometimes you have to find the root of the problem.

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I generally think that the best way to "teach" respect is to demand it & to earn it. If you respect yourself, that will come through to your daughter. My children know that there are certain behaviors that are not tolerated in my house, & if they engage in those behaviors they will lose privileges. If you allow her to disrespect you, you are teaching her that you do not deserve respect.

It sounds like you have been (maybe?) giving in to your daughters crying & tantruming for a long time by giving her what she wants to get her to stop. You can't do this with kids. It just reinforces the behavior. It will be REALLY difficult for you, but you must take a firm ground & let her know that you love her dearly & because you love her so much, you will no longer tolerate her behavior. Behavior has consequences & you must implement them. Examples: no cell phone, no tv, no going out with friends, no computer... all these for certain lengths of time. First transgression: 24 hours. Second: 2 days. Third: a week & so on until she begins to understand that YOU ARE SERIOUS!!!!

All this should be done VERY calmly. Don't lose your temper (I know, easier said than done) ... it works better that way. If she tantrums just explain that it will do no good because you have made up your mind.

Good luck & welcome to the teenage years!!!!

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thanks for the info ladies

Edited by: MRS_AQUARIUS at: 1/15/2011 (21:30)
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delete topic please

Edited by: MRS_AQUARIUS at: 1/15/2011 (21:29)
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